Coxford_lou Posted 13 March, 2015 Author Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Urban Dictionary: No mark: Also commonly used in Merseyside to describe an underacheiver, with no friends, no ambition, no job, but who often has illusions that he is someone or thinks he's important. LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Urban Dictionary: No mark: Also commonly used in Merseyside to describe an underacheiver, with no friends, no ambition, no job, but who often has illusions that he is someone or thinks he's important. Barry Sanchez you mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Duckhunter Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Me and Mrs Duck have had plenty of ding dongs but I'd never go crying to the old bill , I would find it pretty embarrassing to be honest . I've never given her a dig , but she's aimed plenty at me and thrown various objects my way . I've also had drinks tipped over my head , my phone smashed and season ticket buried in the garden . I have to just pin her down and get her to calm down as I could never hit a chick . To be honest with you , I think she finds it a bit of a turn on that we have such a fiery relationship . It's starting to become less and less frequent now, but our first few years together there was loads of incidents . Nowadays I just tell her to **** off and I go up the pub . She ignores me when I get back, until it's time for a bit of the old Duck magic . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pap Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 My god, what a catch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
View From The Top Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Me and Mrs Duck have had plenty of ding dongs but I'd never go crying to the old bill , I would find it pretty embarrassing to be honest . I've never given her a dig , but she's aimed plenty at me and thrown various objects my way . I've also had drinks tipped over my head , my phone smashed and season ticket buried in the garden . I have to just pin her down and get her to calm down as I could never hit a chick . To be honest with you , I think she finds it a bit of a turn on that we have such a fiery relationship . It's starting to become less and less frequent now, but our first few years together there was loads of incidents . Nowadays I just tell her to **** off and I go up the pub . She ignores me when I get back, until it's time for a bit of the old Duck magic . Classy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Me and Mrs Duck have had plenty of ding dongs but I'd never go crying to the old bill , I would find it pretty embarrassing to be honest . I've never given her a dig , but she's aimed plenty at me and thrown various objects my way . I've also had drinks tipped over my head , my phone smashed and season ticket buried in the garden . I have to just pin her down and get her to calm down as I could never hit a chick . To be honest with you , I think she finds it a bit of a turn on that we have such a fiery relationship . It's starting to become less and less frequent now, but our first few years together there was loads of incidents . Nowadays I just tell her to **** off and I go up the pub . She ignores me when I get back, until it's time for a bit of the old Duck magic . Lol, why'd she bury your season ticket? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Duckhunter Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 Lol, why'd she bury your season ticket? She claimed that I thought more of football than her. It was before the cards it was like a wallet thing , pretty sure it was around the end of The Dell. She reckons football is a pub crawl with a match in the middle of it . Nowadays she's got used to it and was rather I was out the way, but for years she had a major issue with me always going to football ( I also played Sundays back then, so that didn't help) . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
View From The Top Posted 13 March, 2015 Share Posted 13 March, 2015 She claimed that I thought more of football than her. It was before the cards it was like a wallet thing , pretty sure it was around the end of The Dell. She reckons football is a pub crawl with a match in the middle of it . Nowadays she's got used to it and was rather I was out the way, but for years she had a major issue with me always going to football ( I also played Sundays back then, so that didn't help) . I've been with my wife for 25 years. When I 1st met her I told her, on a Saturday morning when she mithered about me going to a game, that I'd been watching Saints long before I met her & if the case arose, I'd been watching them long after she'd been forgotten. She spoke to my mum that afternoon who told her that I meant it. She's never mithered about Saints since, except when I started going again after my banning order was lifted, but that was understandable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whelk Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 I know far more blokes who don't 'wear the trousers' in the relationship than do. Some seem pathetic and are so accommodating for fear of upsetting their missus. Rarely ends well either, as women want men to be ' a man' ie take control, be assertive, decisive etc. and ultimately they don't respect the bloke who will sacrifice his football for a B and Q trip.. Being desperate to please is unattractive IMO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Give it to Ron Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 I know far more blokes who don't 'wear the trousers' in the relationship than do. Some seem pathetic and are so accommodating for fear of upsetting their missus. Rarely ends well either, as women want men to be ' a man' ie take control, be assertive, decisive etc. and ultimately they don't respect the bloke who will sacrifice his football for a B and Q trip.. Being desperate to please is unattractive IMO Whelk how long have you been married? As someone who has for 32 years never hit her, watch about 4 games a weekend, hate B&Q with a vengeance can tell you that there are many times you let them think they wear the trousers. That's not desperate its tactics.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
percy windham Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Its not hard to figure out that you're a massive tw*t, to be honest. "Based on a few words" - you do realise you have 23,000 posts on here? You post on virtually every thread, seemingly an expert in everything. And its wholly predictable ******** that you post. Why cant you just find something else to do rather than feel you have to provide an opinion about EVERYTHING, even when you obviously don't even have a clearly thought out opinion? "Thankfully I wont have to meet you".....are you being serious? You think you're the one who has got the good deal out of that? You're deluded, much like you were deluded when you posted on here pretending to be your own girlfriend. Thats not weird at all, is it? In summary, you're a tedious, predictable f*ckwit who desperately tries to show off in front of other forum members and you had to pretend to have a girlfriend. Very very well said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 14 March, 2015 Author Share Posted 14 March, 2015 "Thankfully I wont have to meet you".....are you being serious? You think you're the one who has got the good deal out of that? LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pap Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 I know far more blokes who don't 'wear the trousers' in the relationship than do. Some seem pathetic and are so accommodating for fear of upsetting their missus. Rarely ends well either, as women want men to be ' a man' ie take control, be assertive, decisive etc. and ultimately they don't respect the bloke who will sacrifice his football for a B and Q trip.. Being desperate to please is unattractive IMO Whelk how long have you been married? As someone who has for 32 years never hit her, watch about 4 games a weekend, hate B&Q with a vengeance can tell you that there are many times you let them think they wear the trousers. That's not desperate its tactics.... I understand where you are both coming from. I've seen many people fit whelk's description, and I have to confess that I don't have a great deal of sympathy for them. I think it's ultimately counter-productive. People want what they can't have, and if you offer utter subservience to someone, then they've got everything. You're done. There's no more mystery. Sometimes this happens quite early into the relationship, but just as often, I've seen people hit a certain age and either give up, or grow up, depending on your perspective. Either way, the other half has complete control, and it puts the relationship on a dangerous footing. We've got broadly defined responsibilities in my house. ms pap is day to day support, whereas I'm (for the most part) financing, long-term planning and crisis management. Ultimately, the buck stops with me, so technically, I wear the trousers, but it'd be more accurate to say that the pair of us just have different responsibilities. The "tactics" that Give it to Ron refers to are usually used by the pair of us to get out of them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whelk Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Whelk how long have you been married? As someone who has for 32 years never hit her, watch about 4 games a weekend, hate B&Q with a vengeance can tell you that there are many times you let them think they wear the trousers. That's not desperate its tactics.... 18 years with 3 great kids. I can afford to be smug. I am not saying be a sexist dinosaur and of course plenty of compromise. Like Duck - think the missus would be more devastated if I didn't renew my ST Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Boy Saint Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 What an interesting thread, aside from a bit of a wobble part way through. My wife suffered from DV in her first marriage what I saw done to her would make your blood boil thankfully she had strong enough family around her and was stubborn enough herself to walk away. When we got together there were times when we would have the odd ding-dong, not Queensbury rules but verbal nothing nasty but an annoying child like why, why, why and I would just bite my tongue but could see how her first husband probably just lost it. The root of all this was that she naively was of the belief that she could change her man to conform to her ideals, which is probably at the centre of most DV towards men and "the puppy" soils the carpet for the umpteenth time. I think I was an enigma to her having grown up in house where my Dad was the domestic "Godess" ( get a clip round the ear for that) I followed his lead without a second thought: the confusion this caused dissolved these ideals over the years. Reading Whelks post above just made me think of a friend who has been ground down psychologically over the years. He basically can do no right for doing wrong, he has earned very nice money over the years and given his wife a life many women would envy, but can't spend it as a surprise on his wife. Even if he bought her the Koh-I-Noor diamond it would have to go back to the shop to be changed because the colour was wrong or the cuts were in the wrong place: it wasn't her choice. When we lived closer to them, me and him would go out for a walk a few evenings a week as time passed he would be more free with the chat and quite frankly his domestic world is like an Orwellian 1984 existence, his only sanctuary seems to be the Church which is like a crucifix to a vampire to her, but her psychological dominance over him is such that, even at his age of 54, I have to go through his wife to get him a pass to come out and play golf with me! He has never once phoned me up to arrange a game, but within seconds of heading out to the course in the car the first comment he makes is "thanks for getting me out"! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unbelievable Jeff Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Not going to comment on the sexism argument earlier in the thread as that has been done to death. Have to say SOG's account sounds awful. I don't *think* I've met anyone who has suffered from domestic violence either men or women, but I don't know how I'd react if my missus punched me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Not going to comment on the sexism argument earlier in the thread as that has been done to death. Have to say SOG's account sounds awful. I don't *think* I've met anyone who has suffered from domestic violence either men or women, but I don't know how I'd react if my missus punched me. Come on, you'd cry on the floor like a baby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
View From The Top Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 I have mates that I ride with who get "grounded" by their Mrs on Sundays instead of riding. They get slaughtered by the rest of us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Duckhunter Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Whelk how long have you been married? As someone who has for 32 years never hit her, watch about 4 games a weekend, hate B&Q with a vengeance can tell you that there are many times you let them think they wear the trousers. That's not desperate its tactics.... Who wears the trousers is an interesting one . My snap dragon tells people I wear them , but she tells me which pair to wear . She's proberly right in a way but it tends to be a bit of both . She'll never stop me going to the pub or football , and I tend to run our social life and holidays . However , if she wants to move, we move. I don't really care too much where we live as long as I've got money when I want a pint , have the kids and her around , and go to football . I guess after 20 odd years we share trousers depending on situation . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 14 March, 2015 Author Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Who wears the trousers is an interesting one . My snap dragon tells people I wear them , but she tells me which pair to wear . She's proberly right in a way but it tends to be a bit of both . She'll never stop me going to the pub or football , and I tend to run our social life and holidays . However , if she wants to move, we move. I don't really care too much where we live as long as I've got money when I want a pint , have the kids and her around , and go to football . I guess after 20 odd years we share trousers depending on situation . What a sweet response. Sounds like you've both got it sussed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bucks Saint Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 It means you aren't really anything special but some people act like you are due to the fact that you purport to be female. Whether you find that insulting I suppose is dependent upon how high an opinion you have of yourself. Judge. Jury. Executioner. Stunning lack of self awareness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadoldgit Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Not going to comment on the sexism argument earlier in the thread as that has been done to death. Have to say SOG's account sounds awful. I don't *think* I've met anyone who has suffered from domestic violence either men or women, but I don't know how I'd react if my missus punched me. I am sure there are many people who have had it worse than me Jeff. The saddest thing is though you meet someone that you fall in love with and plan to spend the rest of your life with then you realise you don't know that person at all and they are really someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hypochondriac Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Judge. Jury. Executioner. Stunning lack of self awareness. Just call me robocop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Duckhunter Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 It's all about compromise . I'll give you an example ; mrs duck takes forever to get ready and I would spend over an hour pacing around waiting and getting more and more thirsty . The worst of it was when she used to pop next door and ask her mate if her outfit was ok ( after getting fed up with me saying Yes, ****ing yes, come on let's go ) . This ruined our night and we always went out on a row . Nowadays I **** off up the pub and she joins me when she's ready and we head off out . I'm happy , she's happy , everyone Is a winner . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 14 March, 2015 Author Share Posted 14 March, 2015 (edited) It's all about compromise . I'll give you an example ; mrs duck takes forever to get ready and I would spend over an hour pacing around waiting and getting more and more thirsty . The worst of it was when she used to pop next door and ask her mate if her outfit was ok ( after getting fed up with me saying Yes, ****ing yes, come on let's go ) . This ruined our night and we always went out on a row . Nowadays I **** off up the pub and she joins me when she's ready and we head off out . I'm happy , she's happy , everyone Is a winner . Common complaint from blokes, but I bet you prefer it when she looks nice, rather than going out without making any effort... Edited 14 March, 2015 by Coxford_lou Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Duckhunter Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Common complaint from blokes, but I bet I prefer it when she looks nice, rather than going out without making any effort... There's making an effort and then there's taking the **** . I like a few liverners before I go anywhere , but she seems to think it's ok to get somewhere at 8 or 9 , when the kick off is 7.30. Fashionably late, my arse , I want to enjoy the whole evening not half of it .Believe it or not ( and it's true ) I'm in a pub in Bournemouth now having left at 6 for our friends 40th in town tonight . She's following me down when she's ready , and we will arrive at the do together . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 14 March, 2015 Share Posted 14 March, 2015 Who wears the trousers is an interesting one . My snap dragon tells people I wear them , but she tells me which pair to wear . She's proberly right in a way but it tends to be a bit of both . She'll never stop me going to the pub or football , and I tend to run our social life and holidays . However , if she wants to move, we move. I don't really care too much where we live as long as I've got money when I want a pint , have the kids and her around , and go to football . I guess after 20 odd years we share trousers depending on situation . Don't get the whole wearing of the trousers thing, its meant to be a partnership not a dictatorship. I like football, cricket, gym, drinking ales and whiskey she likes whatever it is women like doing, something about James Martin and LK Bennett. I do what I want, go to football when I want, gym 3-4 times week, she does whatever she wants. I work full time and she looks after our precious offspring and goes to coffee mornings where they all talk about periods, reality TV and cooking programmes or something. Or priority is our little boy and we everything we do is what's in his best interest, when both of your priority isn't yourself I don't understand why people are in competiton to be in charge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarniaSaint Posted 15 March, 2015 Share Posted 15 March, 2015 My first wife used to call the police when we argued, which was frequently, and they used to take me away. When I said that I was the injured party they just said sorry mate but when there a children involved they always remove the husband in domestics. On one occasions my mother in law attacked me, cutting my arm with keys she held in her hand. This was because I was on the phone to my mother and they had come back looking for accommodation as my ex was going to move out. I think they wanted to use the phone and caused a "fracas." Despite the fact that I had done nothing I was arrested and spend the night in the nick. My ex punched me in the face on one occasion but I was lucky. She treated her first husband so badly that he killed himself. I didn't find out the truth about him until after my marriage broke down and only then from his family. I was lucky, I had clothes torn or thrown out of the bedroom window. My dog was given away behind my back. I only had mental trauma and ended up with The Priory for several months. It could have been worse. Domestic violence is terrible but it is not all one way traffic. I felt too embarrassed to say anything about the way I was being treated and I am sure many men feel the same. I agree that it is mainly men causing violence against women but not always. The posters you see all over the place about DV ought to be changed to make the point that all DV is wrong, no matter who perpetrates it. Hey that's terrible SOGGY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadoldgit Posted 15 March, 2015 Share Posted 15 March, 2015 Hey that's terrible SOGGY Yeah, not great Sarnia. I can tell you that sitting in the back of a police car in handcuffs for 30 mins whilst being carted off to jail isn't the best time I have had! The officers were very nice though, they both sympathised as they had both been divorced before! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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