Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I think we ladies could be making more use of this pool of male knowledge, insight, and experience to help solve those little man conundrums we come across on a daily basis. So this is thread for it... I've got a question coming... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 On behalf of a 'friend' ... First date outfits, where objective isn't a one night stand... Is it better to go for: A) short skirt B) low top C) neither of the above, keep it Laura Ashley. ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Both A and B. (I am by no means an expert in these matters) Come clean Lou. This, er, 'friend' of yours, it's you isn't it? Your secrets safe with us, we shan't tell anybody. Not ever Never Honest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PompeyLass Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? Not me. Never needed to. Besides, I'm well past my 'best before' date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farawaysaint Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? I have signed up recently after some ****e first dates, I figured I could prescreen a little, they're not the nightmare everyone said. Most people on there seem fairly normal and just don't have time to meet people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Both A and B. (I am by no means an expert in these matters) Not sure A+B will meet the objective Grandad Just a conversation I was having last night with the girls... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? Good one. Honest answers only, boys! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farawaysaint Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Good one. Honest answers only, boys! I answered honestly, stop being greedy Lou. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Not sure A+B will meet the objective Grandad Just a conversation I was having last night with the girls... I was talking about the man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I answered honestly, stop being greedy Lou. Yeah, but you didn't say what you were looking to get out from it........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farawaysaint Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Yeah, but you didn't say what you were looking to get out from it........ I am a man, I will gladly take what I can get Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unbelievable Jeff Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 On behalf of a 'friend' ... First date outfits, where objective isn't a one night stand... Is it better to go for: A) short skirt B) low top C) neither of the above, keep it Laura Ashley. ? If you're looking for a relationship, C. If I was looking for a girl to settle down with I'd prefer them to be dressed in C, prefer classy to slutty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? I've posted this true story before, so apologies for posting it again – but, you never know, it might be of some help. Mate of mine – no, really a mate, not me – met up with a woman from plentyoffish.com. Turned out she looked 20 years older than her photo, had stinking breath and babbled on about paranormal nonsense all night. Even several drinks couldn’t engender any enthusiasm on my mate’s part, but being quite p*ssed, and not wanting to hurt her feelings, he agreed to meet up with her again, only to subsequently ignore her numerous attempts to contact him. Couple of weeks later, he got chatting to another woman on plentyoffish.com who asked him whether he had met up with anyone else from the site. He replied that he’d only met up with one other woman, and that she had looked 20 years older than her photo, had stinking breath, and babbled on about paranormal nonsense all night. Turned out he was chatting to the same woman – she had re-enrolled under a new identity in order to attain some genuine feedback. Suffice it to say, this feedback made her very unhappy. Having said this, I do know at least two couples in happy long-term relationships – 20 years plus, in one case – who met through dating agencies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Bateman Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 On behalf of a 'friend' ... First date outfits, where objective isn't a one night stand... Is it better to go for: A) short skirt B) low top C) neither of the above, keep it Laura Ashley. ? Depends what you want? A short-term thing based purely on sex and looks, then go for A+B. If you want something meaningful and lasting then avoid at all costs and just dress normally - nice jeans and a nice top is fine. Not too much make up either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PompeyLass Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I have signed up recently after some ****e first dates, I figured I could prescreen a little, they're not the nightmare everyone said. Most people on there seem fairly normal and just don't have time to meet people. From my experience I tend to attract the weirdo's or sex pests !!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Bateman Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? Yep, met my wife on one. Also a great way to meet some complete odd balls and get some decent stories along the way, from the sort of people you'd never ever bump into normally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 where objective isn't a one night stand what is ur objective ffs? Is it to hopefully bang, but still get phone call within 72 hours, or do you not want to bang at all? genuine question no trolls pls Edit: I mean friends objective ffs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goatboy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 We won't be looking at your clothes lou. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Yep, met my wife on one. Me too! Send my regards pls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farawaysaint Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 (edited) From my experience I tend to attract the weirdo's or sex pests !!!! I imagine it is worse for women. We're not all bad thothough. Edited 24 February, 2015 by farawaysaint Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Bateman Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Me too! Send my regards pls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PompeyLass Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I imagine it is worse for women. We're not all bad thothough. I imagine it's pretty much the same both ways, the few decent men I've had dates with have said that women are just as bad ! Personally i don't see the point in being anything other than yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twiggy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 On behalf of a 'friend' ... First date outfits, where objective isn't a one night stand... Is it better to go for: A) short skirt B) low top C) neither of the above, keep it Laura Ashley. ? Always classy over slutty. Slutty is more suitable on a night out in the clubs, but if a girl turned up dressed sluttily on a date would decrease the chances of a second date drastically. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 From my experience I tend to attract the weirdo's or sex pests !!!! Try dating somebody from outside Portsea Island Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PompeyLass Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Try dating somebody from outside Portsea Island I have a couple of times from an SO postcode, no different Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I imagine it's pretty much the same both ways, the few decent men I've had dates with have said that women are just as bad ! Personally i don't see the point in being anything other than yourself. Oh, i don't know. With me pretending to be Roger from Accounts and the Mrs pretending to be Daphne from HR, things can get quite fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bad Bob Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 On behalf of a 'friend' ... First date outfits, where objective isn't a one night stand... Is it better to go for: A) short skirt B) low top C) neither of the above, keep it Laura Ashley. ? We've always been told that women should be able to dress how they like so, really, you should wear whatever you feel comfortable with. If it was me though I would keep it Laura Ashley, don't give the wrong impression to your intended paramour. This will be interesting ! I've got one. Do you or have you ever used dating sites, if so what were you looking to get from it ? Never, mind you I am attached, if I ever become detached I might depends on how far my wit, charm, personality and dashing good looks get me in the real world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 We've always been told that women should be able to dress how they like so, really, you should wear whatever you feel comfortable with. Pyjamas + Bunny Slippers is not appropriate attire for McDonald's, tripB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Oh, i don't know. With me pretending to be Roger from Accounts and the Mrs pretending to be Daphne from HR, things can get quite fun. Don't mess with chicks from HR! There is big Scandal where I work cos dude (not me) has sent text photos of his genuine penis (not me) to 4 other employees (not me) and one of the employees (not me), right, is HR woman (not me) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the saint in winchester Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 OK, I think we have clearly answered Lou's question - you should veer more toward smart and professional for a lasting relationship. Now, let's use Lou and Po'Lass as our focus group and make this 'The Lady Advice Thread'. I am away on business next couple of days, have a night stop at a hotel. If there's a lady on her own in the bar, should I approach her at all, or am I likely to find myself tasered? If I approach her at all, what is the best line to use an ice-breaker to initiate conversation? So far I haven't found talking about whether Pelle should be used up top, or whether we should play 3 at the back to be particularly successful. So I need help with my conversation initiation skills, please, ladies. Not you, Bear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Lone Lady in Hotel Bar is usually Prostitute, so what you want to do- Not you, Bear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bad Bob Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 OK, I think we have clearly answered Lou's question - you should veer more toward smart and professional for a lasting relationship. Now, let's use Lou and Po'Lass as our focus group and make this 'The Lady Advice Thread'. I am away on business next couple of days, have a night stop at a hotel. If there's a lady on her own in the bar, should I approach her at all, or am I likely to find myself tasered? If I approach her at all, what is the best line to use an ice-breaker to initiate conversation? So far I haven't found talking about whether Pelle should be used up top, or whether we should play 3 at the back to be particularly successful. So I need help with my conversation initiation skills, please, ladies. Not you, Bear. Lone Lady in Hotel Bar is usually Prostitute, so what you want to do is buy her a G&T slap £100 in front of her and ask how much more if she swallows? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bad Bob Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Pyjamas + Bunny Slippers is not appropriate attire for McDonald's, tripB What about a Tigger style onesie?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Yeah that is good example of the dumb shit birds will wear if you give them free hand, like you're suggesting. It works both ways tho, quite often I would like to go out wearing i.e. Spaceman Suit with Helmet, or, say, SS Gestapo Uniform, and I am similarly prevented by Social Convention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 OK, I think we have clearly answered Lou's question - you should veer more toward smart and professional for a lasting relationship. Now, let's use Lou and Po'Lass as our focus group and make this 'The Lady Advice Thread'. I am away on business next couple of days, have a night stop at a hotel. If there's a lady on her own in the bar, should I approach her at all, or am I likely to find myself tasered? If I approach her at all, what is the best line to use an ice-breaker to initiate conversation? So far I haven't found talking about whether Pelle should be used up top, or whether we should play 3 at the back to be particularly successful. So I need help with my conversation initiation skills, please, ladies. Not you, Bear. If you want to keep it football related, ask her if she would like to see a demonstration of your sliding tackle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Thanks for the advice guys, but you misunderstood - none of the outfits would be slutty!! I live in London, not Liverpool! None of my friends could look slutty if they tried! A bit of leg can still look classy! It was more a question of hot vs casual. And if hot, whether boobs or legs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farawaysaint Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Thanks for the advice guys, but you misunderstood - none of the outfits would be slutty!! I live in London, not Liverpool! None of my friends could look slutty if they tried! A bit of leg can still look classy! It was more a question of hot vs casual. And if hot, whether boobs or legs. I will say my relationships that have lasted the longest the first date has been more of a cute look rather than hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 OK, I think we have clearly answered Lou's question - you should veer more toward smart and professional for a lasting relationship. Now, let's use Lou and Po'Lass as our focus group and make this 'The Lady Advice Thread'. I am away on business next couple of days, have a night stop at a hotel. If there's a lady on her own in the bar, should I approach her at all, or am I likely to find myself tasered? If I approach her at all, what is the best line to use an ice-breaker to initiate conversation? So far I haven't found talking about whether Pelle should be used up top, or whether we should play 3 at the back to be particularly successful. So I need help with my conversation initiation skills, please, ladies. Not you, Bear. DEFINITELY approach her. Ask her an open question so she can't give a yes or no answer. Maybe something about the bar being so quiet - nothing flash, no one liners. Just something friendly and chatty. If she's on her own, she be pleased to be chatted to. If she's a work colleague, don't flirt unless she flirts with you, just keep it chatty. If she's not interested in talking, leave her be. If she's open to chatting, you'll impress her by being a nice relaxed guy, rather than someone trying to hard to please with dumb chat up lines. If she's not interested, don't take it to heart. Does that makes sense? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 I will say my relationships that have lasted the longest the first date has been more of a cute look rather than hot. But cute is so boring Hot is more fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 what is ur objective ffs? Is it to hopefully bang, but still get phone call within 72 hours, or do you not want to bang at all? genuine question no trolls pls Edit: I mean friends objective ffs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PompeyLass Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 OK, I think we have clearly answered Lou's question - you should veer more toward smart and professional for a lasting relationship. Now, let's use Lou and Po'Lass as our focus group and make this 'The Lady Advice Thread'. I am away on business next couple of days, have a night stop at a hotel. If there's a lady on her own in the bar, should I approach her at all, or am I likely to find myself tasered? If I approach her at all, what is the best line to use an ice-breaker to initiate conversation? So far I haven't found talking about whether Pelle should be used up top, or whether we should play 3 at the back to be particularly successful. So I need help with my conversation initiation skills, please, ladies. Not you, Bear. I didn't know Travelodges had bars ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 DEFINITELY approach her. Ask her an open question so she can't give a yes or no answer. Maybe something about the bar being so quiet - nothing flash, no one liners. Just something friendly and chatty. If she's on her own, she be pleased to be chatted to. If she's a work colleague, don't flirt unless she flirts with you, just keep it chatty. If she's not interested in talking, leave her be. If she's open to chatting, you'll impress her by being a nice relaxed guy, rather than someone trying to hard to please with dumb chat up lines. If she's not interested, don't take it to heart. Does that makes sense? omg could you not put any more chat in that paragraph? So start a chat, and whilst you're chatting, keep it chatty, girls like to be chatted up generally, but don't try any chat-up lines. Just chat, but only if she's open to chatting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 omg could you not put any more chat in that paragraph? So start a chat, and whilst you're chatting, keep it chatty, girls like to be chatted up generally, but don't try any chat-up lines. Just chat, but only if she's open to chatting Alright, Shakespeare, I'm rushing! Didn't have a chance to properly construct sentences or edit. Crux of the advice is - don't try too hard! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Jeez, it's difficult to get a question past the censor! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bad Bob Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Thanks for the advice guys, but you misunderstood - none of the outfits would be slutty!! I live in London, not Liverpool! None of my friends could look slutty if they tried! A bit of leg can still look classy! It was more a question of hot vs casual. And if hot, whether boobs or legs. But you're not going out with them with the intention to bed so you want to ramp it back a bit so as to not give the wrong idea. Legs yes, boobs no, you've alluded to having a cleavage before so I would wear a loose blouse rather than something form fitting... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 But you're not going out with them with the intention to bed so you want to ramp it back a bit so as to not give the wrong idea. Legs yes, boobs no, you've alluded to having a cleavage before so I would wear a loose blouse rather than something form fitting... Have I?! Crap. Need to rein in things I allude to on here!! Thanks for the advise, Bob. I'll pass onto my friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Crux of the advice is - don't try too hard! Terrible advice Try v.hard (but don't appear to be trying v.hard) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coxford_lou Posted 24 February, 2015 Author Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Terrible advice Try v.hard (but don't appear to be trying v.hard) Yeah, but we can see through it. Nothing worse than a guy acting all casual when you can see their hands shaking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearsy Posted 24 February, 2015 Share Posted 24 February, 2015 Legs yes, boobs no Victoria Beckham said that Ladies of Breeding should do one or the other, but not both. I don't know why I know this, or where I read it, or why Victoria Beckham is the arbiter of taste, but it is Fact. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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