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I see he is going to marry his partner thirty years his junior. Now ignoring the views on gay marriage, what are people's views on getting married to someone where there is a huge age gap? What in your view is an acceptable age range for someone to have a relationship with someone else?

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His partner is what, 27?

 

Makes him a couple years older than me (SF's partner I mean), can't really see myself dating/marrying someone that much older, but hey, if they are happy why not. I think at that age he is old enough to decide.

 

Don't know if it is a tad hypocritical, but if the guy (I really should look up his name) was 18/19 engaged someone 30 years older I may feel a bit different.

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His partner is what, 27?

 

Makes him a couple years older than me (SF's partner I mean), can't really see myself dating/marrying someone that much older, but hey, if they are happy why not. I think at that age he is old enough to decide.

 

Don't know if it is a tad hypocritical, but if the guy (I really should look up his name) was 18/19 engaged someone 30 years older I may feel a bit different.

 

I'm still not sure how I feel about it. Something about an age gap that large makes me feel uneasy. Is there an age gap that you think would be too much? Fifty year perhaps?

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I'm still not sure how I feel about it. Something about an age gap that large makes me feel uneasy. Is there an age gap that you think would be too much? Fifty year perhaps?

 

Yeah, I do understand where you are coming from. As I say, I can't see myself ever getting involved in that sort of relationship. But I dunno, it just seems these are two people old enough to make sensible enough decisions about their lives, and if they want to get married more power to them.

 

I'm not sure where exactly I'd draw the line, I think it would more depend on the couple in question?

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Is there any examples of 30yr age gap romance, where the younger partner is more rich? Genuine question no trolls pls

 

Clearly his fame is a factor here. The average 57 year old doesn't have a relationship with someone thirty years younger. By his own admission he has always had a bit of a strange relationship to sex and partners so maybe it's a factor here as well.

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Yeah, I do understand where you are coming from. As I say, I can't see myself ever getting involved in that sort of relationship. But I dunno, it just seems these are two people old enough to make sensible enough decisions about their lives, and if they want to get married more power to them.

 

I'm not sure where exactly I'd draw the line, I think it would more depend on the couple in question?

 

75 25? What about Hugh Heffner and the playboy bunnies?

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The main thing I don't really get is how can you relate to someone on that level who is thirty years younger or older than you? Your life experiences and growing up would be completely different.

 

This is a fair point and its usually what keeps a marriage or relationship going beyond the first few years. For whatever time they have I hope they are very happy together.

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The main thing I don't really get is how can you relate to someone on that level who is thirty years younger or older than you? Your life experiences and growing up would be completely different.

 

I knew a girl of around 19 who was going out with someone of around 50. I think there was an element of the father figure going on with him and her as we wasn't particularly rich or good looking.

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Not really a fan myself.

 

Part of it is having daughters that are young women themselves. I try to conduct myself with decorum, and there are teenage girls in and out of this place all the time, so I've walk about with the blinkers on. Don't think it's the done thing to go out with women that are around the same age as your daughters.

 

The other thing is a pure security issue. Think the difference would always be in the back of your mind, especially as one gets wrinklier, etc.

 

Fair play to anyone that does it, but not sure I'd be comfy with anything more than 7 years in either direction.

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It's a maturity thing. Is the younger mature enough and feel more comfortable with an older person or is the older immature and need a younger partner because that's their level, emotional and otherwise. At 27 you're probably more mature than a 19 year old so it's not as shocking.

 

In some circles I believe Mr. Fry is known as a "bear," but perhaps Bearsy could elaborate.

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It's about more than emotional maturity. If one person is significantly older than the other, then one is inevitably going to hit physical issues related with advancing years quicker than the other. Can change the dynamic from spouse to full-time carer and create resentment.

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Love might be what keeps people together but its "what do I get out of this?" is what brings them together. You get points added for being young, good looking, rich, famous or fun to be with and points taken away for being old, ugly, poor, dull and anonymous. Those rich guy / celeb with sexy young poor nobody relationships are just as balanced as the two sexy young things or two old gits together.

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It's about more than emotional maturity. If one person is significantly older than the other, then one is inevitably going to hit physical issues related with advancing years quicker than the other. Can change the dynamic from spouse to full-time carer and create resentment.

 

In fairness, that's entirely possible with similarly aged couples for a whole host of reason. I do get your point though.

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I see he is going to marry his partner thirty years his junior. Now ignoring the views on gay marriage, what are people's views on getting married to someone where there is a huge age gap? What in your view is an acceptable age range for someone to have a relationship with someone else?

 

How old was she when you were posting as your alter-ego Natasha?

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Life is way to short to be worrying about this. Good luck to the pair of them. Finding and grabbing hold of the one you love is hard enough without worrying about a few years age difference.

This doesn't mean what you're thinking Bear. Pervert. And Lily Collins is well old enough.

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Works both ways though doesn't it? I mean, if I were a 20 year old bloke, I wouldn't want to marry a 60 year old woman.

 

But if I were a 60 year old man and a 20 year old woman was interested ... well, why not?

 

note ur not ruling out 30yrs younger, pervert

 

as Bearsy says it... pervert.

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