SO16_Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Very personal question, but anyone had one? I'm / were thinking about it at the moment. We're 30 & 31 respectively, have 1 boy and 1 girl and don't want any more kids. A friend of ours has 2 kids, same ages (2.5 and 5 months) and they're pregnant again....but not keeping it. We desperately don't want to be in this situation, so seriously considering a Vasectomy. Anyone got anything (sensible) to say?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had one years ago. Everything hangs a little differently afterwards but apart from that no problems at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 You could speak very nicely to your wife and suggest that she be sterilized instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Author Share Posted 7 May, 2014 ^ I could... but then I couldn't ask her to kiss it better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hatch Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 yep, 12 years ago after the birth of #3. Makes things a whole lot easier, especially as I am now a single man. Although, the infection was the most pain I have ever been in, My ******c were swollen to the size of grapefruit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 ^ I could... but then I couldn't ask her to kiss it better Granted, there is that advantage! Although, perhaps not straight away: I haven’t had one myself, but, from what I’ve heard, you won’t want anyone to go anywhere near it for at least a day or three. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buctootim Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 30/ 31 seems a bit young to make what can often be an irreversible decision like that. You never know how your life / feelings can change in time. I don't have an alternative solution for your immediate problem though, sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 30/ 31 seems a bit young to make what can often be an irreversible decision like that. You never know how your life / feelings can change in time. I don't have an alternative solution for your immediate problem though, sorry. Tim makes a very good point here, because, although vasectomies and sterilisations can be reversed, I think that anyone undergoing this procedure has to accept that this can be problematic. Although I was being tongue-in-cheek when I made my previous remark referring to your wife being sterilised, this is actually what happened in our case. After our second child, my wife was adamant that whatever happened, including divorce or the premature death of me or the children, she did not want another child. She also made the point that, whereas she only had a limited biological time left to have children, I would, hopefully, be able to reproduce for the rest of my natural life. Therefore, she decided to be sterilised herself; thankfully, it was a very straightforward procedure … and left me with no pain whatsoever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 30/ 31 seems a bit young to make what can often be an irreversible decision like that. You never know how your life / feelings can change in time. I don't have an alternative solution for your immediate problem though, sorry. Good point. I was over 40 for mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
View From The Top Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 yep, 12 years ago after the birth of #3. Makes things a whole lot easier, especially as I am now a single man. Although, the infection was the most pain I have ever been in, My ******c were swollen to the size of grapefruit. Also after #3 for me 7 years ago. I also got an infection & had gonads like beach balls for a week. Was the right decision & one I don't regret. If I hadn't had it done I reckon we would have had another and we couldn't have afforded that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andysstuff Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had mine at 33. Did briefly consider a reversal after leaving my mrs and finding someone else who wanted kids but it never happened and with hind site glad it didn't. Like Hatch said, as a single bloke now it makes life ever so much easier. As long as you are happy you don't want any more kids come what may then go for it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hutch Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 It can be undone. It's no big deal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pap Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 One of my fave quips, when ms pap and I are asked whether we're having any more kids, is to say:- "She's not, but I might". You will lose this quip if you take the schnipp-schnipp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo Stickman Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 It can be undone. It's no big deal … sometimes when you’re least expecting it. The wife of an ex-work colleague of mine became pregnant a few years after he’d been snipped. Let’s just say this caused a fair degree of angst within the marriage for a while. Turned out his vasectomy had been reversed because he did a lot of deep-sea diving, apparently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 … sometimes when you’re least expecting it. The wife of an ex-work colleague of mine became pregnant a few years after he’d been snipped. Let’s just say this caused a fair degree of angst within the marriage for a while. Turned out his vasectomy had been reversed because he did a lot of deep-sea diving, apparently. Is that what they call it these days? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dimond Geezer Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Had my swimmers disabled a few years back. I makes things a lot easier, no more faffing with a jonny at a time when you don't really want to be, and it's nice to be riding bareback once again. Mrs Geezer prefers it too. I had no problems afterwards, all healed nicely & you get some bonus hand-jobs for few weeks post op because you need to clean your pipes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eurosaint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Was a piece of cake, no probs, only slight discomfort I had was when the wife (who had only just passed her driving test!) jerked the car all the way home from the clinic ! No regrets, even after another 30 years, reckon it's the best thing but obviously you have to think it through and be sure in your own minds !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weston Super Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 As others have said, no probs at all. Yes it hurts, like a bastard, but then having your ******** manhandled and bruised will do that! The benefits - as long as you are sure! - far out weigh the negatives. Don't do what I did though and go on a rib off the isle of man for the weekend just after the op, that only compounds the pain - learn from my mistakes!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SOTONS EAST SIDE Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Had mine done 18 years ago. Only had two issues, so take heed. 1. Do not offer to push your littleun in a a shopping trolley for your misses, were he can floor you, without laying a punch on you. (kick in the freshly bruised gonads) 2. Do not return to work too early, were you could possible trip( on a pallet) and do the splits, thus ripping out your stitches and feeling like you wet yourself, which was the blood running down. Other than that no real issues! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastleighSoulBoy Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had one 11 years ago. Maybe I was lucky but I had very little pain afterward. It's a responsible action to take. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 It's no problem fella. Made the decision after the second was born as we both decided we were getting a bit long in the tooth to have anymore. No problems with the after effects except for a small bit of scar tissue on the incisions which itches from time to time, but I understand that these days the procedure is far less intrusive, so that sorts that out. And the missus was convinced that I had to get regular nosh and s hags for 3 months afterwards until they all disappeared. Makes it easier now too, not having to fanny about with the nightfighters and all that. Plus they seemed to do the ops on a Thursday and you are told to rest up for the whole weekend, so you can milk that and get waited on for the next 3 days. But don't be tempted to bang one out after a day or two like a mate of mine did. Let's just say he had to go back in to get a re-stitch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
west_oz_saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had one a number of years ago, 2 days after the op I was in emergency with the right hand side the size of an avocado, all is good now but talking to guys this can be quite common. IMO 30 is a bit on the young side. good luck which ever way you go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Convict Colony Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 ****ing hell this has just made me wince Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Author Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Thanks for the comments everyone. Re age; I totally get what you are saying but we don't want another little one in the next 5 years (whereas we DID want 2 this close together) - and by the time our youngest is 5 we would be 35/36 - too old, and the Mrs will want to go back to work and think about getting her grown up life back. All that imo points to having the little fella seen to Not too keen on the Mellon sized gonad though Sent from my GT-I9300 using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitey Grandad Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 To be honest mine didn't hurt at all, the only problem I had was a small infection where the surgeon had left an offcut of tube inside. If anything the whole area was a lot less sensitive afterwards and getting kicked in the naughties has never been a problem since. It's your choice of course, both of you. My son had three kids and was managing ok until she fell for a fourth. She's a lovely little girl but four is a big handful and I think it stressed his wife so much that they ended up getting divorced. My daughter had two kids, one of each, and then got pregnant with another who's a lovely lad but it has completely upended her life. I know someone who had three kids and when his mrs got pregnant again they took the difficult decision to abort. The modern world doesn't seem to be designed for large families. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Author Share Posted 7 May, 2014 To be honest mine didn't hurt at all, the only problem I had was a small infection where the surgeon had left an offcut of tube inside. If anything the whole area was a lot less sensitive afterwards and getting kicked in the naughties has never been a problem since. It's your choice of course, both of you. My son had three kids and was managing ok until she fell for a fourth. She's a lovely little girl but four is a big handful and I think it stressed his wife so much that they ended up getting divorced. My daughter had two kids, one of each, and then got pregnant with another who's a lovely lad but it has completely upended her life. I know someone who had three kids and when his mrs got pregnant again they took the difficult decision to abort. The modern world doesn't seem to be designed for large families. Thanks Whitey. It is exactly these scenarios that we want to avoid. As I mentioned in the OP, our friends are in exactly the same situation as us, 2 kids 2.5 and 5 months, and they are pregnant again with their 3rd...and having an abortion. It is the right decision for them for so many reasons, and it would be for us too, but we both know we couldn't make the decision to abort. We just couldn't. But we know it would be the right thing to do. My worry is that we would, subconsciously, grow to resent any 3rd kid in we were to fall again. It's all pointing to a vasectomy me thinks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LGTL Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Sod that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viking Warrior Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had mine some years back. My wife at time and I had a long chat about this due to her gynae problems associated with various contraception options It was decided jointly that for her health it would better for me to have the snip . We have two lovely children now grown up . My ex wif had to have a total hysterectomy at the age if 38 It was a tough decision but in my case based on the medical issues it was the right decision even though we were divorced some years later . It was the right decision So you need to weigh up all the facts and if you are both certain then go for it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpine_saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I've had one. 4 kids are enough............. We wouldnt have been able to cope with / afford / have room for another one. An abortion would have killed me and my wife, so I am perfectly happy with my decision. Was sore for a week, but actually think I have more drive since I had it done. Operation was not as straightforward as claimed; was told one nut is ususally straightforward (my case done in 10mins), the other can be a ***** due to the pipe to be cut being behind the nut and the doc needs to root around to find it. Second nut took 2 hours in my case. Had much heavier bruising on it afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 Thanks for the comments everyone. Re age; I totally get what you are saying but we don't want another little one in the next 5 years (whereas we DID want 2 this close together) - and by the time our youngest is 5 we would be 35/36 - too old, and the Mrs will want to go back to work and think about getting her grown up life back. All that imo points to having the little fella seen to Not too keen on the Mellon sized gonad though Sent from my GT-I9300 using Tapatalk I wouldn't call 35 too old to have kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 ****ing hell this has just made me wince +1. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fowllyd Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I must have been lucky - got snipped nearly ten years ago and had no unpleasant after-effects at all. Definitely the thing to do if you're sure you don't want to have any more children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hamilton Saint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I had one about 15 years ago. Improved the sex life. Had virtually no pain and no post-procedure complications. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cambsaint Posted 7 May, 2014 Share Posted 7 May, 2014 I asked my GP who was also a friend when I was in my late thirties and my wife couldn't take the pill. He advised against at my age as he said he had seen too many patients with vasectomies marriages break down and then with their new partner they wished they could have children. we always hope our marriage won't break down but many do so it is a point worth considering. If you're curious we're still together after over 40 years but I still value his advice . Having been nuked down there for prostate cancer recently I'd be very careful indeed about any unnecessary op in that region. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kingsbridge Saint Posted 8 May, 2014 Share Posted 8 May, 2014 True story - when I got mine the radio was on - it took 4 songs. But the songs.......and it was the radio because I couldn't believe it myself and grilled the doc..... 1. Mama told me not to come 2. The Communards 3. Ch Ch Ch Changes 4. Twist and Shout Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minty Posted 8 May, 2014 Share Posted 8 May, 2014 If you do decide to have one, try to get it done using the 'No Scalpel Technique'. This used to be available in Totton, but isn't anymore, nearest place is Fordingbridge I think, but wherever you are, you'll have to be referred by your GP and he can advise. This newer technique is fairly common now but not everywhere does it. It only involves one small hole being made, not the two scalpel incisions required in the other technique, and no stitches are needed afterwards as it heals on its own quite quickly. It can have complications, as all surgery can, but generally it's better than the scalpel method, less chance of bleeding, less discomfort etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 6 May, 2015 Author Share Posted 6 May, 2015 So, a year down the line, and I've finally taken the steps and have the op booked in for 29th May Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericofarabia Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 So, a year down the line, and I've finally taken the steps and have the op booked in for 29th May Good luck with it and when it's done "Welcome to the Martini Club" .... "Anytime, any place any where..... " Added bonus is after month or 6 weeks (?) you have to go back with a spunk sample to see if it is clear of any little swimmers, but before that you have to have an ejaculation every day to clear the tubes ..... Happy Days on Doctors Orders Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 6 May, 2015 Author Share Posted 6 May, 2015 Good luck with it and when it's done "Welcome to the Martini Club" .... "Anytime, any place any where..... " Added bonus is after month or 6 weeks (?) you have to go back with a spunk sample to see if it is clear of any little swimmers, but before that you have to have an ejaculation every day to clear the tubes ..... Happy Days on Doctors Orders Is that so? Oh happy days Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trader Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 If you do decide to have one, try to get it done using the 'No Scalpel Technique'. Is that the same as 'The Two Bricks Technique'? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SO16_Saint Posted 6 May, 2015 Author Share Posted 6 May, 2015 Is that the same as 'The Two Bricks Technique'? [emoji29] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pap Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 Opens up more job opportunities. I think you can now join the Unsullied or work in a harem. I'm sure I have that right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadoldgit Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 Had mine done after the birth of my third daughter in my mid 40s. The first Mrs SOG suggested it as she didn't want to go on the pill again. Gallantly I counter suggested that she get sterilised but she said the snip was more straightforward for me. I checked it out and unfortunately she was right, so I was done. Very straightforward and not too much discomfort afterwards. I would recommend it once you have decided that you don't want any more sprogs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faz Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 We had it done to our cat and now it just lies around and sleeps all day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadoldgit Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 We had it done to our cat and now it just lies around and sleeps all day. Faz, it doesn't work like that. It has to be done to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Bateman Posted 6 May, 2015 Share Posted 6 May, 2015 Absolutely no chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarniaSaint Posted 7 May, 2015 Share Posted 7 May, 2015 I had mine in 1973.............!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted 7 May, 2015 Share Posted 7 May, 2015 Sod that. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazy Diamond Posted 7 May, 2015 Share Posted 7 May, 2015 This may not necessarily be useful but I have had it described to me that the procedure feels like your stomach being pulled out through your arse, which doesn't sound very nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rallyboy Posted 7 May, 2015 Share Posted 7 May, 2015 A few years back I had my face stitched, which smarted a bit, and as the blood was running down the back of my neck I decided that I wouldn't want anyone armed with needles or scalpels anywhere near more sensitive areas. I made a mental note that in future, if I was offered the choice between having my face or my scrotum collide with anything, it would be my face every time. So fair play to those brave enough to sign up for genital vandalism in a worthy cause - and congratulations to everyone on here for mainly offering sensible advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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