Regrets of the dying

[Saint in Paradise]

Some thoughts for you lot who work hard and also for those who live their lives as others want them too.

 

A thought provoking blog IMHO and no I didn't write it.

 

http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

 

The top five regrets of the dying : a life transformed by the dearly departing / Bronnie Ware.

by Ware, Bronnie

 

Carlsbad, Calif. : Hay House, 2012.

 

ISBN: 9781401940652 (pbk) 140194065X (pbk)

 

Terminally ill -- Psychology.

 

Self-actualization (Psychology)

[alpine_saint]

Everything OK with you and yours, SiP ?

[Whitey Grandad]

Hi SIP, how's it going down under and a bit to the right? This came a bit too close to comfort for me earlier this year. The operation I had has a 1.6% mortality rate and whilst waiting for it my main thought was that I had a lot of unfinished business left and had not had time to enjoy the benefit of my lifetime's efforts. It's easy enough to say that you should work less and play more but the problem is getting the balance right. I now look at life differently.

[Saint in Paradise]

Hi Both I am fine thanks but at my age I have obviously known several

who are no longer with us. I saw that story on another website and just

thought I would post it for the benefit of the younger people on here. Hopefully

it will make them think a bit ? IF they read it of course especially the bit

about work.

[buctootim]

Its not as easy as that SIP unfortunately. Most of us want to spend more time with family and having fun but end up commuting / doing overtime / doing a job they hate etc because of the need to provide a decent house / food / school trips etc. I spent a chunk of money which would otherwise have gone into paying down the mortgage for taking the kids to the US and Caribbean a couple of weeks ago. We all had a ball but you never know if you will need money for something more serious in the future.

[Saint in Paradise]

From that blog:-

 

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship.

Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners.

All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do.

And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

 

Just a thought

[Whitey Grandad]

That reminds me of some of the teachings of Epictetus. Basically, instead of constantly wanting more, learn to be happy with less.

[ART]

Thank you so much for posting. I've also found the article in other languages. I've friends whose 97 year old mother's situation is causing them great concerns and feelings of not knowing how to cope with her. She is at home, bedridden, unable even to feed herself and crying continuously. I hope these words will bring comfort to all concerned.

[sotonjoe]

The only thing I'll regret is wasting time reading bull**** on this mongboard, oh and not giving Dulldays a rim job.