Splitting from teh missus

[saint1977]

just had a text from her...

 

she said she really hopes we can make things work but the last week has given her a few worries etc....she wants to see how we get on together this weekend..

 

sounds fair enough...right?

 

Can't comment on I'm no Sinner's position but I've been in a similar position to yours TDD and got the feck out is my advice - I'm really glad I did too as I met someone fantastic who I'm getting married to. "See how we get on" after 3 months sounds like someone who doesn't know what she wants. This particular ex at the time is a genuinely decent girl but is by all accounts stuck in the same rut that she was and is no nearer to finding what she wants and is dominated by her family. I hope for her sake that she breaks free and meets someone who can help her find a direction but I'm glad I made a difficult decision at the time.

Edited 20 November, 2008 by saint1977

[notnowcato]

just had a text from her...

 

she said she really hopes we can make things work but the last week has given her a few worries etc....she wants to see how we get on together this weekend..

 

sounds fair enough...right?

 

She's got worries?? Cheeky bint. Nail it and bin it.

[saint1977]

And expensive I would imagine!

 

Perry to be fair was probably a bit hurt but strangely did have a ironic grin on his face according to my friend. Needless to say my friend DIDN'T want dropping at his front door just in case!

[Draino76]

God how I wish I could get rid of my *****; then I'd be straight on the plane to Thailand.

[JohnnyFartPants]

My only advice is to say that you have to go with your feelings. That said, always remember that women are far greater liars than men. They can spin them without so much as a shady look on their faces and most won't think twice about doing it.

[Ponty]

See how the weekend goes, just don't plan any Christmas shopping trips 'til next weekend. Simple.

[Ponty]

That's not me signing off as "Simple" btw.

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

Simple Ponteh

[Thedelldays]

cheers people...i will see how the weekend goes...

 

I have to forget about the texting f I want it to work and leave it there only because I have been a right **** in the last 7 days......

 

cheers again..

[JohnnyFartPants]

That's not me signing off as "Simple" btw.

 

But, that you thought it needed explaining......................

[JohnnyFartPants]

cheers people...i will see how the weekend goes...

 

I have to forget about the texting f I want it to work and leave it there only because I have been a right **** in the last 7 days......

 

cheers again..

 

In your mind, can't you rewind her to "casual ****" and sort of decide other stuff later?

[Ponty]

But, that you thought it needed explaining......................

 

Of course, I'm not that arrogant!

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

God how I wish I could get rid of my *****; then I'd be straight on the plane to Thailand.

 

Surely doing the latter will achieve the former though?!

[PompeyLass]

cheers people...i will see how the weekend goes...

 

I have to forget about the texting f I want it to work and leave it there only because I have been a right **** in the last 7 days......

 

cheers again..

 

What have you been doing then to be a **** ?

[Scudamore]

What have you been doing then to be a **** ?

 

chaining her to the radiator while he reads her texts...

[INFLUENCED.COM]

Just fu ck them off, your feeling is simply a state of mind, get over someone by getting on someone else, if I caught mine doing the txt thing she would be gone no question, if mine turned around and said she was unsure about us, she'd be gone no question because the unsure feeling will lead to the txting some time later

[Thedelldays]

What have you been doing then to be a **** ?

 

 

after i found pictures of her ex on her phone last wed.....i was started acting very suspicious about everything (a bit too much) and she felt that she had to lie and change the name on her phone about a male friend texting her as she thought i would have a go due to the way i was acting...which i can understand..

 

what i dont get...do male friends text.."night u x" at 1030pm..?

[Robsk II]

Some might. There's no hard and fast answer to that. In truth, though, you have to just trust her. There's no point in thinking she's lying. If you trust her, trust her. If you don't, then deal with things with her, or split up with her.

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

what i dont get...do male friends text.."night u x" at 1030pm..?

 

IMO not unless they wanna get in their knickers, but I could be wrong, Im sure there are circumstances where they would text that and just be a friend. Few and far between though if you ask me.

 

Could be a gheyer I suppose?

[Thedelldays]

Some might. There's no hard and fast answer to that. In truth, though, you have to just trust her. There's no point in thinking she's lying. If you trust her, trust her. If you don't, then deal with things with her, or split up with her.

that is what i have to do....

 

She wants to see that I trust her...which is fair enough I guess....

[Robsk II]

It's not easy, obviously. But yeah - it's a tough, short answer. Do, or don't. I guess you have to work on the assumption that if she wasn't fussed, she'd be elsewhere - until something shows you otherwise.

[JohnnyFartPants]

One way to think of things TDD is to ask yourself if you would send a text to a bird at 10.30pm at night, if you didn't know the birds fella. You probably would if you were single to be fair. So that is all she has done, been on the receiving end of a male friends text. It was also sent at a time when a few beers could have made him think, "I might be in here." She may well have no motive other than thinking he is a mate while he may well want to rub her **** until she gets all gooey in the front bottom and then push his portion up right up her.

 

It happens.

[INFLUENCED.COM]

She wants to see that I trust her...which is fair enough I guess....

 

But how can you possibly have a firm belief in a persons reliability if they have already lied about something, the only woman I 'trust' is my Mum, Ive been with my fiancee 9.5 years, engaged for 5(which is far too long without setting a date apparently) I have been honest from the off that I do not believe in the word trust as that implies you have to believe in that person 100% which I couldn't be convinced of doing, in essence your only accepting as truthful what that person says or does

[Robsk II]

You have to have ENOUGH belief in someone, Influenced, otherwise there's f*ck all point.

[Thedelldays]

what makes me laugh is my work mates are telling me to ditch the bint and embrace single life again...

 

lol

 

thing is...im 28 and have done the single thing around here many times..lol

[PompeyLass]

after i found pictures of her ex on her phone last wed.....i was started acting very suspicious about everything (a bit too much) and she felt that she had to lie and change the name on her phone about a male friend texting her as she thought i would have a go due to the way i was acting...which i can understand..

 

what i dont get...do male friends text.."night u x" at 1030pm..?

 

Yeah, I got that bit but you're perfectly within your rights to be suspicious. How were you acting towards her ?

 

Only if they're gay like Shane & Scott.

[Thedelldays]

Yeah, I got that bit but you're perfectly within your rights to be suspicious. How were you acting towards her ?

 

Only if they're gay like Shane & Scott.

i was very suspicious about everything for a few days...i questioning everything..like "who was that who just text you" etc...

 

which is odd as i have never been like that before..

[PompeyLass]

i was very suspicious about everything for a few days...i questioning everything..like "who was that who just text you" etc...

 

which is odd as i have never been like that before..

 

Sounds like you're quite serious about her then.

[Thedelldays]

Sounds like you're quite serious about her then.

yes...

 

yes, i was out of order by being totally suspicioua about everything after those pics...but it all snowballed after i knew she was lying to me about the texts.....I asked her about 4-5 times over a couple of days who it was and she kept maintaining it was a girl from work.....then when she knew that I deffo knoew it was a bloke she admitted and said she felt she had to lie...

 

is that a girly thing to do??

[PompeyLass]

yes...

 

yes, i was out of order by being totally suspicioua about everything after those pics...but it all snowballed after i knew she was lying to me about the texts.....I asked her about 4-5 times over a couple of days who it was and she kept maintaining it was a girl from work.....then when she knew that I deffo knoew it was a bloke she admitted and said she felt she had to lie...

 

is that a girly thing to do??

 

She dug herself a bit of a hole really as the more times she denied it the more suspicious you got. She should've really come clean before you had to ask her 4 or 5 times.

[JohnnyFartPants]

She dug herself a bit of a hole really as the more times she denied it the more suspicious you got. She should've really come clean before you had to ask her 4 or 5 times.

 

Do you think she owes him a go in her stench trench for being so underhand?

[PompeyLass]

Do you think she owes him a go in her stench trench for being so underhand?

 

Without a shadow of a doubt.

[saint_stevo]

just had a text from her...

 

she said she really hopes we can make things work but the last week has given her a few worries etc....she wants to see how we get on together this weekend..

 

sounds fair enough...right?

 

Get a PAYG phone, then change the number of the he/she in her phone who she was suspiciously texting to the second phone you have and see if she sends it anything dodgy.

 

 

Solved.

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

Get a PAYG phone, then change the number of the he/she in her phone who she was suspiciously texting to the second phone you have and see if she sends it anything dodgy.

 

 

Solved.

 

Also very sneeky, and a sure fire way to lose her, if she catches him!

 

Besides, when she texts him saying 'things are better now, how are you and Paul finding married life since the civil ceremony, can I pop over in a moment to see my two best ghey friends'

 

They would find it a little weird that she texted him, and got no response!? And how bad would TDD feel?!

[Summers]

I'm with Stevo here, he seems spot on, that way your mind is at rest.

[saint_stevo]

Also very sneeky, and a sure fire way to lose her, if she catches him!

 

Besides, when she texts him saying 'things are better now, how are you and Paul finding married life since the civil ceremony, can I pop over in a moment to see my two best ghey friends'

 

They would find it a little weird that she texted him, and got no response!? And how bad would TDD feel?!

 

if nothing after a few days, change it back and you know.

 

I'm with Stevo here, he seems spot on, that way your mind is at rest.

 

You know it summers old bean

[Rory]

Didn't have you marked down as somebody who'd be sending texts to a bloke with a women's name ... oh well we live and learn

 

I love how Shanice has a deeper voice than me.

 

Anyway, in my opinion and experience, men have a ridiculous jealous streak that runs through them when their missus has the slightest interaction with another man.

 

You have to subdue it and not give a f*ck because they are all liars anyway, at the end of the day .

[scott_saints]

Anyway, in my opinion and experience, men have a ridiculous jealous streak that runs through them when their missus has the slightest interaction with another man.

This is because women have many male friends that they never think about sleeping with. Whereas men will always think/want to sleep with their female friends (if phit).

[Thedelldays]

what does not help is that most of my mates here are away at sea at the mo...and only one or two are around...so i am in on me tod most of the time..

 

if the lads were here Im sure i would not be so ****ed off and would probably have ditched her for the texts...

 

anyone know of any hot ladies who want teh sailor

[saint_stevo]

what does not help is that most of my mates here are away at sea at the mo...and only one or two are around...so i am in on me tod most of the time..

 

if the lads were here Im sure i would not be so ****ed off and would probably have ditched her for the texts...

 

anyone know of any hot ladies who want teh sailor

 

http://www.majestic-escorts.com/

[Window Cleaner]

Whereas men will always think/want to sleep with their female friends (if phit).

 

Or if drunk

[aids victim]

Women are liars and they love mind games, so play into her hands and send some proper dirty texts to a lass that you know will reply, then sit back and watch her look at them and she'll hit the roof.

 

Punch her in the mouth so she's dazed, land a stone cold stunner on her and then cop a quick feel.

 

Women love me, I have done this loads of times before and they come back for more, honest, I wouldn't lie to you, as there's a 0.4% that you could hunt me down and kill me if this backfired.

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

Women are liars and they love mind games, so play into her hands and send some proper dirty texts to a lass that you know will reply, then sit back and watch her look at them and she'll hit the roof.

 

Punch her in the mouth so she's dazed, land a stone cold stunner on her and then cop a quick feel.

 

Women love me, I have done this loads of times before and they come back for more, honest, I wouldn't lie to you, as there's a 0.4% that you could hunt me down and kill me if this backfired.

 

I was eagerly awaiting your posts on here today. You have not disappointed.

 

Do you not feel the pressure of becoming a full member now? As you will have to keep a high level of standard in your posts, otherwise you will end up being me! :smt069

[Crouchie's Lawyer]

anyone know of any hot ladies who want teh sailor

 

 

HTH

[AndyNorthernSaints]

seems like a good time of year to do so...will save me a few quid i reckon..lol

You could have waited til Christmas day after she's given you a present before you dumped her :-)

[Kadeem Hardison]

You sound really desperate.

 

Maybe she just thinks she's seen enough of what you're about to realise that she doesn't want to live with you, let alone suck you off or spend the rest of her life with you.

 

Maybe you are just trying to convince yourself that she hasn't 'left you', because you just aren't willing to accept the truth. Deep down I think you realise it's over. Maybe she just hasn't found the courage to say those final words of "Look, it's over. You bore me, I don't love you and there's no way I want to spend another day with you let alone the rest of my life, now please just let me go, you're scaring me now"... it's probably hard for her to say those words because she just sees you crying and begging her not to leave you.

 

If you end up marrying her then you're mental. She WANTS to NOT get married to you; you say you're not happy to let her not. I'll tell you what - why don't you just beg and plead with her, make her feel bad and sorry for you and have her finally relent and agree to marry you after all (against her better judgement). That sounds like a recipe for a long and successful marriage with no resentment whatsoever.

 

You are in the Wiltshire/Tiggs/Atticus bracket.

[Atticus Finch of Maycomb]

And you're another one in the Wilts/Tiggs/Atticcus bracket.

 

Do you ever come onto a thread to contribute toward the actual thread?

 

It seems every time you come onto SWF, it is litterally to spite people, take the **** out of what others have said! You may call it b-anter, and think people like you, in a similar way that the school bully thinks he has a lot of friends. B-anter is different, what you do is just c*nty.

 

Why bother coming on here if it 'bores you' and you dont like the people who post? Why not stick to your own little racial world where you are king of a forum which struggles to get more than 10-15 posts a day? I think you are a very insecure person Ess, its the only rational explanation for it. You hide behind your own insecurities by mocking others.

 

As a taxi driver, Im sure you are a fairly worldly person, speaking to a lot of different people on a regular basis, so why not contribute to threads rather than waste you 3 posts a day abusing people? You may find then, that people take you seriously and actually like you (cue your comment 'oh noes, people on innernets dont like me'). But the fact is, very little people actually enjoy being disliked.

 

And you know nothing about me, I chose to let people know what I want them to know. And if it seems I am divulging my personal life on the innernet, then maybe have you considered I want other opinions? If you do not care to give your opinion, or indeed even read my post, then dont. F*ck off back to b-anter.

 

Glad to help

 

u r a gayer

[jawillwill]

You are in the Wiltshire/Tiggs/Atticus bracket.

 

u r a gayer

 

 

 

Oh what a surprise. First Tiggs post, and just a few minutes later Atticus posts on the same thread. :smt101 What a coincidence.

[hamster]

Very. The only time you change a name (especially changing the sex too) on your mobile is if you dont want your other half knowing who you are texting.

 

And INS should know.

[saint_stevo]

Wiltshire next perhaps?