Thedelldays Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 Anyone know of people that have done this Is so, did they succeed If thy never, what were their reasons behind ut Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raging Bull Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 Played football with 1 lad who did after afganistan and when to school with a girl who nearly suceeded after abusing class a's. Shes ok now, just a gobs**te! Are you feeling lonely and thinking about it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pap Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 Loads of people, actually. Some succeeded, some didn't. There was a spate of suicides in a town I often frequent for work purposes, kids in their teens or early twenties taking their own lives. Don't want to be too specific out of respect for those left behind, but its heartbreaking to meet the relatives of those who have succeeded. As for reasons, well one nipper I know who took his own life left a fairly long note addressed to his mother. Blamed her for everything, and honestly, he was right. Poor f**ker never stood a chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
St Marco Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 One of my friends dad hung himself about 4 months ago. Long story short he had a longtime wife and two kids (both older then 21) but started seeing a young women on the side. As the months went by he would spend lot's of money on this women to try and impress her. Eventually all the family savings were spent without the wife knowing. Then one day some debt collector people came to the house and said they owed xyz amount of money on a ring or something like that. She spoke to him about it and he came clean but as you can imagine it pretty much messed things up for the family. A few days later my friend went round to see her family and found he had hung himself. The sad thing about it is that she was to get married in a month or so later but had a massive breakdown. I think that is the thing that angers me about people who do those kind of things. Something that starts off as a bit of fun can have huge consequences for people around you. And to then kill yourself makes it even worse for them. Naturally I can't past judgement as not been in that situation but people should think more about who they will hurt by doing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Give it to Ron Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 My ex-fiance that left me and went back to her first love" who treated her like ****e. I always treated her well he used to beat her etc but guess he was what she wanted. They got married and he was giving her a hard time playing away etc, I bumped into her on a bus one night and she wanted me to go and see her again when he was out, I never as she ruined my life once and was married myself and not giving that up. I heard on the radio that someone had jumped off Weston towers...I had a sense it was her and it was as her brother told me later he was leaving her she din't want to live without him. I still have a sense of guilt that I could of done something if only I could of spoken to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toomer Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 I used to work with a chap many years ago who tried to top himself when his wife left him, he tied a rope to the end of the bed and jumped out of the window he forgot the bed frame had small wheels on the bottom of the legs, he broke both his legs when he landed as the bed shot across the bedroom when he jumped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buctootim Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 (edited) I heard on the radio that someone had jumped off Weston towers...I had a sense it was her and it was as her brother told me later he was leaving her she din't want to live without him. I still have a sense of guilt that I could of done something if only I could of spoken to her. Its inevitable you'll have that feeling at the back of your mind, but there is nothing you could have done. Some people have abusive childhoods and end up with a warped view of relationships. In their world explosive, tempestuous and manipulative behaviour equates to real love and treating someone as an equal with respect and tenderness is 'kind' but not 'real' love. Often you cant overcvome what people have had imprinted during childhood. Edited 26 July, 2012 by buctootim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Essruu Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 No. But there are a few people who I wish would try it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dune Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 I had a mate who got pulled for drink driving. He stood in front of a train. Tragic waste of a life for something that wasn't the end of the world he thought it was at the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dune Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 The one at Wimbledon? No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
This Charming Man Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 I tried to kill myself after reading Frank's Cousin's long winded ramblings on here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Verbal Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 Not sure why so shocked... he wanted to stay and signed a contract to that amount. It was ultimately his choice, and at the time of signing it, it would have been a pretty good deal for a club of Saint's size. Later contracts were higher, for players who made a far lesser contribution, but its also about timing... Le Tiss got unlucky really in signing his last contract before the next wage explosion. He could and should have been able to play for another couple of seasons really as well which would have seen a nice final pay day... but like many of us, he did not exactly look after his body during those crucial late 20s - enjoyed a pie - and that does not help with injuries that he suffered towards the end of his career. The problem now is not wages being stupid for the very best World class players, thats the norm in any sport, its the level paid for very average players that is crippling many clubs, or restricting their progress and development. Wage caps and fair play rules are just booll ooks. If the Prem, FL, or FA were rreally serious about levelling teh playing field and encourging youth development, they would introduce rules that restricted transfers of contracted under 23s (there would be a way around EU/employment laws) to allow clubs to benefit on the pitch from investmnet in youth, not just in financial terms... Those who say the smaller clubs 'need' to sell to survive are usually those at bigger clubs happy to poach - if wages across teh divisions were more realistic, the lower league clubs would not NEED to sell youngster early, no one would.... but as usual, teh rules and regs are stacked in favour of the bigger clubs... and that is the real problem to fair play and fair wages Kudos and legendary status to MLT for staying loyal, but he should still have been able to set himself up on the wage he was one and the money he earned form football...and it was his choice. ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 I used to work with a chap many years ago who tried to top himself when his wife left him, he tied a rope to the end of the bed and jumped out of the window he forgot the bed frame had small wheels on the bottom of the legs, he broke both his legs when he landed as the bed shot across the bedroom when he jumped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpsaint Posted 26 July, 2012 Share Posted 26 July, 2012 A lad in my year at school took his own life by jumping from a block of flats in Townhill Park when we were about 15, he'd fooled around with a girl at a party who accused him of rape. The whole thing was pretty awful, seeing fellow pupils ans teachers in tears etc.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Majestic Channon Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 A close friend of mine killed himself by jumping off clifton suspension bridge in 96. He had got involved in scientology and wanted to leave, will never know any more . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Majestic Channon Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 My ex-fiance that left me and went back to her first love" who treated her like ****e. I always treated her well he used to beat her etc but guess he was what she wanted. They got married and he was giving her a hard time playing away etc, I bumped into her on a bus one night and she wanted me to go and see her again when he was out, I never as she ruined my life once and was married myself and not giving that up. I heard on the radio that someone had jumped off Weston towers...I had a sense it was her and it was as her brother told me later he was leaving her she din't want to live without him. I still have a sense of guilt that I could of done something if only I could of spoken to her. Same,the night before my mate comminted suicide he phoned and asked if he could come over for a few beers and stay but i told him no as i had an early start. I still wonder if he might have opened up and we might have sorted his mess out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pressingon Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 There was a spate of suicides in a town I often frequent for work purposes, kids in their teens or early twenties taking their own lives. Don't want to be too specific out of respect for those left behind, but its heartbreaking to meet the relatives of those who have succeeded. I wonder if this is a town in South Wales begining with B ? I've had 2 cousins from there who tried. One had split from partner and moved back in with his mother. One morning she found him hanging in the kitchen, wil never get over it. The other cut his throat, he was saved by paramedics and was in hospital (top floor) he tried again by jumping out the window but only broke a few bones. He eventually sued the NHS claiming he should have been under constant observation because they knew he was a suicide risk. He got a big settlement, enough to buy a 5 bed house without a mortgage and have the rest put in trust so it didn't stop him claiming beneifits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpine_saint Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 I wanted to laugh too but felt it was inappropriate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Special K Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 I wanted to laugh too but felt it was inappropriate. To laugh or to post about laughing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint Billy Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 I found out that my ex wife was having an affair, I managed to find his phone number and contact him. I told him that I was prepared to give it another go with my then wife and that I wanted him to no longer contact her. He subsequently killed himself in his car inside his garage with a hose pipe and exhaust fumes etc. He had a wife and 2 young children and it was the children that discovered him. I felt really really sorry for those children and his wife and it left me in a confused state and feeling guilty although it was none of my doing. As you can imagine, the marriage never really worked after that and we went our separate ways followed by divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotonjoe Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 Anyone know of people that have done this Is so, did they succeed If thy never, what were their reasons behind ut I've not got any experience, but if you need someone to give you a hand I'd be really keen to help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seaford Saint Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 I have a mate who stabbed himself through his chest...close to his heart. He survived. Not sure of motive but he attributed it to medication he was taking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 27 July, 2012 Share Posted 27 July, 2012 Ive been waiting for this feckin flame to be lit for too long now. Goodbye cruel world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CHAPEL END CHARLIE Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 Some awesome tales of everyday Human tragedy in this thread that I personally find a genuinely moving experience just to read, yet alone live with. Although I can't claim to have had an equivalent experience myself, I too have known depression and the depressed in my life - perhaps we all do - and I can appreciate how difficult it must be to recall such painful memories as the loss of friends and family to the tragedy of suicide must be. I knew someone who only a few weeks ago died after a long struggle with cancer (in great pain I might add) and although he had prepared a means to end his life at a time of his own choosing, ultimately he decided to endure his illness to the very end in circumstances I wouldn't wish on anybody. Draw whatever conclusions from that you like. All I say is that however bleak life seems, with the perspective of age I now know that all things will pass in time - the bad as well as the good. Our little lives are precious things that should be cherished while we have them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintscottofthenortham Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 A lad in my year at school took his own life by jumping from a block of flats in Townhill Park when we were about 15, he'd fooled around with a girl at a party who accused him of rape. The whole thing was pretty awful, seeing fellow pupils ans teachers in tears etc.... You were obviously a few years ahead of me at BPS. Was a sad time indeed. I didn't know him personally but a few in my class knew him. Hit alot of people hard. Am I right in thinking there is a charity footy match every year in his memory that does quite well? There was a lad the year below me from Bitterne Park aswell, he got mixed up in drugs and got into a but of a state, was missing for a wwhile and was found under Cobden Bridge if i remember rightly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
This Charming Man Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 Was there ever any reasons given for the spate of suicides in Bridgend a while back or is that kind of stuff normal over the bridge? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaz Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 Friend from school up here did it, he was one of the first to pass his driving test and got a job as a mechanic, but was always a bit weedy and geeky, used to be bullied terrible at school, seems like it carried on into the workplace and couldn't take any more. Got in his car one day, drove down one of the back lanes around where we live until he saw a woman driving a 4x4 and he rammed it at around 60mph. Put her and her daughter in hospital and succeeded in topping himself. In the days before he was apparently talking to those at work, saying how he wanted to do a massacre like that Korean guy in the Virgina Tech shooting. Also, my step-uncle jumped in front of a train in the Soton area in the early-00's, but I don't know the circumstances around it as we don't talk about him in the family. Second husband of my Mums sister, she has always struggled with depression and he wasn't exactly the strongest person to be able to cope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danish Saint Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 My aunt hung herself out of guilt. She had fallen behind work due to an injured wrist and couldn't work 100%. She reported back to work before her wrist had properly healed and subsequently fell even more behind. Her boss and colleauges didn't see the signs or tried to help her out. This lead to a nervous break-down, where my uncle found her working at home at 3 and 4 at night. After a huge collapse, she was admitted into a hospital, where the doctors just had started a medical treatment, but before the medication had time to work, she hung herself off the door in the ward, after having tried and failed one time. When they opened her work-mail, she had over 800 unanswered e-mails. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bpsaint Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 You were obviously a few years ahead of me at BPS. Was a sad time indeed. I didn't know him personally but a few in my class knew him. Hit alot of people hard. Am I right in thinking there is a charity footy match every year in his memory that does quite well? There was a lad the year below me from Bitterne Park aswell, he got mixed up in drugs and got into a but of a state, was missing for a wwhile and was found under Cobden Bridge if i remember rightly. Think I've seen your surname on here at some point in the past, fairly certain you've got a cousin called Katrina? I was in her tutor group and left in 2001. It was a sad day indeed, I wasn't a great friend of S.C. but was in a few classes with him and often played footy at lunchtimes together. Was awful for so many people who didn't know how to deal with a tragedy like that. Not sure if the charity football match still happens, be nice if it did. The other suicide you mentioned was pretty messed up too, didn't know about the drugs side of it but believe his girlfriend had been cheating on him with his brother which pushed him over the edge. He loaded a backpack full of bricks and jumped of Cobden Bridge, not nice. He even drew a picture of what he planned to do as a suicide note. He was a good friend of my sister so witnessed first hand the effect it had on his friends and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruffo Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 I meet a girl at work many years ago and the day I finally got up the courage to ask her out, she had topped herself the night before. Drove her car off a cliff because of the break up with her ex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aintforever Posted 28 July, 2012 Share Posted 28 July, 2012 An old school friend suffered from S.A.D and hung himself in his garage. Another guy I knew gassed himself in his car after he was caught drink driving and couldn't face shaming his family. The mind is a strange thing, I find it impossible to comprehend how people can get into a situation where they feel that is the only way out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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