Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Dont get me wrong having a baby boy is fantastic and I love him to bits, but when you are sat here for an hour and a half, and every time you put him down he cries it gets a little tedious. I am currently sat here writing this while he just stares at me fully awake. Sat here in the dark, and as soon as he goes back in his Moses basket he will start crying again. I do have to say this is the first time he has been like this, but the night feeds have got tougher with each child. 10 years ago, I was stiil up and probably drunk for the night feed, but if not lack of sleep did not bother me. Then 3 years ago I found it a little more difficult, but coped ok. This time I am finding very very frustrating and irritating. Does this make me a bad person or just a grumpy old man? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jillyanne Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Neither - just a Dad with 3 children, My Dad says he was exactly the same!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 He has crashed now and I am still on here! I love him to bits and get really frustrated with myself for getting annoyed, as I know they will crash...... I just want to sleep as I know I will be up again at 5 to do it all again now, because he was faffing around for an hour after his feed, this should be sleep time for me and him. Night! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hamster Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 He is probably transfixed on that thing living ion. Your head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 And here we are back again..... I do not like sleep anyway! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 He is probably transfixed on that thing living ion. Your head. Just jealous because I have 2! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doctoroncall Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 What I did (after advice from the mid wife) was to wrap them up from shoulders to toe in a cloth, nice an snug. It worked a treat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 What I did (after advice from the mid wife) was to wrap them up from shoulders to toe in a cloth, nice an snug. It worked a treat. Swaddle, it worked for the last 2, but this one hated it, as he loves to have his hands free! How are you? Still up the road in Melbourn? We are in Royston near Tesco now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doctoroncall Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Maybe it's a girls thing! Yep, still there... so you must be the one I see with the huge shopping trolley of stuff going down the road from Tesco ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwaysaint Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 The swaddling thing is discouraged by some experts too as it's not good for skeletal development. I said about this to my sister when she said we should do it, to which she said our mum always did it to us and it went okay. I had to point out to her that all three of us have suffered with back and joint problems since our late twenties and that she's been in for surgery about it three times. Odd how people sometimes have blindspots like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eurosaint Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Dont get me wrong having a baby boy is fantastic and I love him to bits, but when you are sat here for an hour and a half, and every time you put him down he cries it gets a little tedious. I am currently sat here writing this while he just stares at me fully awake. Sat here in the dark, and as soon as he goes back in his Moses basket he will start crying again. I do have to say this is the first time he has been like this, but the night feeds have got tougher with each child. 10 years ago, I was stiil up and probably drunk for the night feed, but if not lack of sleep did not bother me. Then 3 years ago I found it a little more difficult, but coped ok. This time I am finding very very frustrating and irritating. Does this make me a bad person or just a grumpy old man? Don't you have a wife ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doctoroncall Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 The swaddling thing is discouraged by some experts too as it's not good for skeletal development. I said about this to my sister when she said we should do it, to which she said our mum always did it to us and it went okay. I had to point out to her that all three of us have suffered with back and joint problems since our late twenties and that she's been in for surgery about it three times. Odd how people sometimes have blindspots like that. I've heard of increase risk to hip dysplasia that can occur with tight swaddling but nothing about adverse skeletal development. I think the swaddling would have to be very tight and for prolonged periods of time along with other factors such as diet. There are cultural cases in Asia of infant girl's feet being wrapped for years to be of a certain shape. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint-scooby Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Babies, thats all history ha ha ha ha ha ........... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpine_saint Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Is he getting colic yet ? As I sit, waiting for my 4th boy in May, I am viewing the colic with trepidation... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angelman Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 If you go and see him every time he cries, he will cry to get you to come to him. Ahhh, the joys of colic. We seemed to have cronic reflux in 2 of the kids, which was a little noisy/tedious! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Don't you have a wife ?? Yes I do, but we take it in turns. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Is he getting colic yet ? As I sit, waiting for my 4th boy in May, I am viewing the colic with trepidation... Yep, got colic, but we have some stuff to put in his milk. Think the problem last night was needing to poo, but nothing coming. Tries warmer milk, and water, and even di the cycle movement with the legs, but still nothing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Who? Posted 20 January, 2012 Author Share Posted 20 January, 2012 If you go and see him every time he cries, he will cry to get you to come to him. Ahhh, the joys of colic. We seemed to have cronic reflux in 2 of the kids, which was a little noisy/tedious! Yes this was a painful cry, not your normal. We leave him to settle himself, like we did the girls. If he cries we leave him for 10 minutes, if it carries on we go to him, as there is a problem. Once he works out the time is always 10 minutes, we will add on some stoppage time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durleyfos Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Don't miss those days one bit! Although Ollie falling out of bed at 3.30am didn't do much for my beauty sleep! Just waiting for the youngest to be potty trained and it's goodbye nappies!! Happy Days! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 20 January, 2012 Share Posted 20 January, 2012 Got send this last night: Awake training for parents: Dear Fellow Babies, OK, here's my situation. My Mommy has had me for almost 5 months. The first few months were great - I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, around the clock. Then something happened. Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep thru the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like its pretty common after Mommies have had us for around 5-6 months. Here's the thing: these Mommies don't really need to sleep. It's just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep - they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle. It goes like this: Night 1 - cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it's hard. It's hard to see your Mommy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it's for her own good. Night 2 - cry every 2 hours until you get fed. Night 3 - every hour. Most Mommies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some Mommies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mommies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don't give in. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!! If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I know it's hard! But she really does not need the sleep; she is just resisting the change. If you have an especially alert Mommy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mommy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it. The other night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT! I cried for any reason I could come up with: -My sleep sack tickled my foot. -I felt a wrinkle under the sheet. -My mobile made a shadow on the wall. -I burped, and it tasted like rice cereal. I hadn't eaten rice cereal since breakfast, what's up with that? -The dog said "ruff". I should know. My Mommy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL. -Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room. -Too hot, too cold, just right - doesn't matter! Keep crying!! -I had drooled so much my sheets were damp and I didn't like it touching me. -I decided I was sick of all the pink in my room so I cried. It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mommies' internal clocks. Sometimes my Mommy will call for reinforcements by sending in Daddy. Don't worry Daddies are not set up for not needing sleep the way Mommies are. They can only handle a few pats and shhing before they declare defeat and send in the Mommy. Also, be wary of the sleep sheep with rain noises. I like to give Mommy false hope that listening to the rain puts me to sleep sometimes I pretend to close my eyes and be asleep and then wait until I know Mommy is settling back to sleep to spring a surprise cry attack. If she doesn't get to me fast enough I follow up with my fake cough and gag noise that always has her running to the crib. At some point I am positive she will start to realize that she really doesn't really need sleep. P.S. Don't let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out. Trust me. Sincerely, Baby E Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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