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That's about the norm, although it's a mad amount of cash. I cant see the point on wasting loads on the wedding. You can have a decent day and night for much less than that.

 

Me and the missus did ours on the cheap, a few sarnies etc and a disco at nursling village hall. Reckon we spent a few grand at the most.

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My mate is booking the venue etc for his wedding and has a budget for the DAY of around £15k.........£15k!

 

Christ, I have never been close to marriage and at those prices, thank god

 

 

Anyone else splash the cash like this?

 

Bonkers. Then again you can spend as much or as little as you like.

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£15 K. I have 2 daughters both with long term partners. Surely he meant £500 really. Please tell me did. NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

You poor sod! Best point out that marriage is not the institution it once was, that the married mans allowance will never return so they should stay as they are. Its for the best.

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My daughter did most of the arrangements herself (she is a great planner) rather than let someone else do it. Her costs were about £9,000 in all and she calculated that if she had let other people do everything it would have been nearer to £20000.

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Not enough people haggle in this country and when it comes to weddings, it's the perfect time. Most are independant businesses putting a huge mark up on prices just because it has the word 'wedding' in front.

 

The truth is, invest more time in shopping around and haggling and you will shave a great deal off your day. Easy.

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Not far off for a small(ish) wedding.

 

Daughter getting wed next year - they did all the research, it's not just the costs but also the actual quality of the venues that scared them.

 

In the end they googled wedding planners, found one in Abruzzo, Italy, did the research, found a Dream Location, Ryanair access and with a reception serving food & booze from 4pm to 6am and shuttle buses it cost 15k EUROS for almost 180 people.

 

The package with farmhouse B&B's & Ryanair booked early for the guests worked out cheaper then a hotel or B&B in UK.

 

Trust me, the Montepulicano D'Abruzzo beats Carling Black Label in some Hotel Ballroom hands down

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Got married in August. About £17k.

 

Church service and marquee after.

 

That includes us doing lots ourselves and two of my mates doing the photos.

 

It is expensive but if you keep a track of what you are spending and prioritise what you REALLY need and what is nice to have you'll be ok.

 

Haggle as well as most of our suppliers knocked money off when I asked.

 

ps It was all my money too!!!! No bank of mum and dad

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Ridiculous amounts of money for a single day. I know somebody who makes cakes as a part-time, independent job and making a wedding cake takes about a day, costs her £60 and she sells them for £300. People go crazy for them as they think they're really cheap too.

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Massive waste of money if you ask me. Why do you need a couple of rings and a piece of paper to show you love someone? Yes I'm sure the day is "magical" but please.. thats 15K towards your first mortgage, or towards your first sprog.

 

The thing is that most sane "future brides" would totally agree with those sentiments. I certainly do as does future Mrs D_P, and I know my Daughter does as well.

 

Looking at my example - both of us would love some deserted paradise Beach on an Island in the sun, with just the two of us on OUR day. Unfortunately it very rarely works out like that.

 

In our case, it starts with our parents - "No you can't do that, it's our day as well" is the sort of mentality, they want to see their darling off into the wide new world & all that. Then comes the brothers & sisters and you get to a point where you have the horror of realising that the slight of them not being invited is something that will hurt for a very long time. Sure we will all moan at the cost (blame OK & Hello magazine for a lot of that BTW) but although UK is a very disfunctional family these days, something like a wedding for people who do have close ties is a social nogo when it comes to ignoring everyone.

 

Within 2 days of getting engaged this summer, the numbers of family & friends that would simply have to be invited in Poland alone nudged up towards 80 or 90 people.

 

This is what happens. With my Daughter it started small then the parents want a couple of friends to go, then her brothers had to bring Girlfriends, the two sets of divorced parents had to bring their new halves and kaboom.

 

Suppose it was my own fault, I should have met a social outcast.

 

So yes it is stupid, we I want to go to Gretna or Vegas or the beach in Phuket or Bahamas with just the two of us, but it ain't gonna happen, and then you have the choice.

 

A few Carling Black Label down the Social Club or done properly.

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We had 40 guests at reception in a nice hotel in the forest including a cake from Raymond blanc and 2 week honeymoon in Scotland for £3.5k

 

A 20k wedding would push my retirement day back at least 2 years.

 

We had everything we wanted. Invites were only sent to people who you could call on for help one day. Distant relatives were not invited.

 

I have a friend at work who had a 20k "party" on a marriage that lasted 6 months and is still paying it back 3 years later. (with her new husband!)

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Budget for our wedding next June, the bulk of which I'm funding with my hard(ish) earned savings), is £10k.

 

Which is pretty average in today's market for a decent wedding.

 

Don't want to spend it? Registry Office, Free Hall hire, cheap buffet, disposable cameras. There are ways of getting around paying big money.

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Ridiculous amount of money.

 

We had a village hall for our reception with local caterers. No honeymoon as all our cash went on buying a house.

 

A girl at work got married recently. She was complaining about not being able to buy their own place, yet they were having 3 weeks in Thailand for a honeymoon. All a question of priorities.

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Well, considering that my fiancee and I have estimated a cost for the day (excluding dresses and flowers) or approx 700 pounds...... jesus.....

 

We have selected a beautiful village hall in herefordshire at £75 rental for the whole wedding weekend and a church at £375. He uncle is doing the entertainment and PA (he is in a band and has all the decks and amplifier equipment we need) and have arranged a local pub to send bar service for free on the reasonable condition that they collect all takings.

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