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Just been out on a night out with some friends i've acquired over the last few years, made up of a girl I was dating for a while, her current partner and my current lodger and I have spent the evening in absolute disbelief regarding how boring and insanely sad the topics of conversation were. It was filled with awkward fake laughing, my lodger babbling b0llocks trying to impress the other two and conversations on everything from laundry to growing your own veg to how my exes partner found an abnormally long pube the other day...all of which the three of them couldn't have looked happier discussing while I sit there and wonder why I bother...

 

Am I wrong to be considering/asking my fellow posters how best to separate myself from these people in the least harmful way or should I put up with these sorts of scenarios and be grateful they want to be around me....despite me feeling like I have just spent the night in a mental asylum??

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They are probably posting the same about the rest of you on other forums at this very moment. :(

 

You were, I guess the common link - so it was up to you - you should have made the evening rock with tales of brilliant posts on here - they would have been captivated. :?

 

There have been brilliant posts on here????

 

I'm just curious to know if people have friends they find irritatingly annoying yet remain friends with them or have intentionally parted with any in the past.

 

When you're younger your friends are kind of dumped on you as groups are naturally formed and you don't have the experience to pick and choose your friends but when you're older and you find yourself obliged to meet up with people that you actually struggle to be around (because of past meetings, shared connections etc.) it's hard to know whether you should just try and adapt yourself so you enjoy these gatherings or just whittle down your friends (not that I have loads!) to only those you truly enjoy being around.

 

I'm not for one second ruling out that I'm the one with the problem and that I came across as the annoying one but just curious to know my wise fellow posters views/experiences in such matters.

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There have been brilliant posts on here????

 

I'm just curious to know if people have friends they find irritatingly annoying yet remain friends with them or have intentionally parted with any in the past.

 

When you're younger your friends are kind of dumped on you as groups are naturally formed and you don't have the experience to pick and choose your friends but when you're older and you find yourself obliged to meet up with people that you actually struggle to be around (because of past meetings, shared connections etc.) it's hard to know whether you should just try and adapt yourself so you enjoy these gatherings or just whittle down your friends (not that I have loads!) to only those you truly enjoy being around.

 

I'm not for one second ruling out that I'm the one with the problem and that I came across as the annoying one but just curuous to know my wise fellow posters views/experiences in such matters.

 

Some hope there ... about as common as a 14 year old virgin in skatesmuff.

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I'm pretty tolorent after a few beers when I can then mix it with the most annoying/boring people and give them a run for their money. The topics of conversation are irrelevant, it's the characters discussing them, Billy Connolly would have a field day with the topics you listed.

 

Seek out more interesting characters but not at the expense of your current friends just be more selective with your socialising with them or drink more in their company and let alcohol work it's dependable magic.

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I'm pretty tolorent after a few beers when I can then mix it with the most annoying/boring people and give them a run for their money. The topics of conversation are irrelevant, it's the characters discussing them, Billy Connolly would have a field day with the topics you listed.

 

Seek out more interesting characters but not at the expense of your current friends just be more selective with your socialising with them or drink more in their company and let alcohol work it's dependable magic.

 

if I was spending the evening with billy connolly I'd probably last about 10 minutes before slitting my wrists

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Just been out on a night out with some friends i've acquired over the last few years, made up of a girl I was dating for a while, her current partner and my current lodger and I have spent the evening in absolute disbelief regarding how boring and insanely sad the topics of conversation were. It was filled with awkward fake laughing, my lodger babbling b0llocks trying to impress the other two and conversations on everything from laundry to growing your own veg to how my exes partner found an abnormally long pube the other day...all of which the three of them couldn't have looked happier discussing while I sit there and wonder why I bother...

 

Am I wrong to be considering/asking my fellow posters how best to separate myself from these people in the least harmful way or should I put up with these sorts of scenarios and be grateful they want to be around me....despite me feeling like I have just spent the night in a mental asylum??

 

i had a forum friend once who used to bore the life out of me with his stories about when he was younger he used have ocd and a prayer ritual and he didn't say certain sentances bad things would happen, also used to moan a lot about how life wasnt all that, i've managed to avoid him for a while but he is perstant i tell thee.

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i had a forum friend once who used to bore the life out of me with his stories about when he was younger he used have ocd and a prayer ritual and he didn't say certain sentances bad things would happen, also used to moan a lot about how life wasnt all that, i've managed to avoid him for a while but he is perstant i tell thee.

 

Patrick Bateman? :)

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i had a forum friend once who used to bore the life out of me with his stories about when he was younger he used have ocd and a prayer ritual and he didn't say certain sentances bad things would happen, also used to moan a lot about how life wasnt all that, i've managed to avoid him for a while but he is perstant i tell thee.

 

Love you too. Don't see you bringing anything even slightly interesting to this forum. I may be a bore but you sir are an ass.

 

In the "boring" threads you make reference to some of the more helpful posters on this forum gave good advice and they generated some good conversation. Do me a favour Turkey, if you don't like reading my threads dont even open them. much love.

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If you think your friends are boring, don't go out with them.

 

Thanks Deppo. Taken onboard :) expected to hear tales of posters who have irritating friends and why they are irritating, wether they avoid any friends because of this but hey ho you wrapped it nicely there so onto next topic....

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It can't have been much fun for them going out with a manic depressive vegetarian.

 

Ha, I'm not a manic depressive. I'm actually a pretty happy guy most of the time. Positive subjects just don't prompt me to start discussions yet negative aspects of can benefit from good discussion and advice from others.

 

I don't think you're in the position to be able to talk about not being fun to be around considering pretty everyone on here has had a go at you for your sh!t comments. Anyway, I'm not vegetarian. I just don't like putting meat in my mouth. You however, I reckon you've had every kind of meat in your mouth ;-)

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Ha, I'm not a manic depressive. I'm actually a pretty happy guy most of the time. I don't think you're in the position to be able to talk about not being fun to be around considering pretty everyone on here has had a go at you for your sh!t comments. Anyway, I'm not vegetarian. I just don't like putting meat in my mouth. You however, I reckon you've had every kind of meat in your mouth ;-)

 

Please elaborate on this you weirdo.

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Love you too. Don't see you bringing anything even slightly interesting to this forum. I may be a bore but you sir are an ass.

 

In the "boring" threads you make reference to some of the more helpful posters on this forum gave good advice and they generated some good conversation. Do me a favour Turkey, if you don't like reading my threads dont even open them. much love.

 

Who took the the cherry off your Belgian bun? A few weeks ago you were begging to hang out with me. You seem to have delvloped a bit of an attitude just lately, you been cyber knocking about with Supermikey and Alpine? You're right though, maybe i should be more interesting, posting threads about how depressing my life and how sh*t my mates are is sure to increase my internet popularity.

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Who took the the cherry off your Belgian bun? A few weeks ago you were begging to hang out with me. You seem to have delvloped a bit of an attitude just lately, you been cyber knocking about with Supermikey and Alpine? You're right though, maybe i should be more interesting, posting threads about how depressing my life and how sh*t my mates are is sure to increase my internet popularity.

 

i bet he regrets those threads now....

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i bet he regrets those threads now....

 

No I don't actually. As I've said, some of the more mature members of this site were actually helpful.

 

Turkish, if I've developed an attitude lately it's cos of the constant digging at my threads that I was perfectly entitled to create and request sensible advice on. Unfortunately I was naive in thinking that the majority of posters on here would take them how they were meant.

 

I'll be more positive towards you the minute you give me reason to be.

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No I don't actually. As I've said, some of the more mature members of this site were actually helpful.

 

Turkish, if I've developed an attitude lately it's cos of the constant digging at my threads that I was perfectly entitled to create and request sensible advice on. Unfortunately I was naive in thinking that the majority of posters on here would take them how they were meant.

 

I'll be more positive towards you the minute you give me reason to be.

 

An internet forum, especially a male dominated football forum, is just the place for sensible advice for emotional and friendship issues. Why dont you write to Danny Dyers problem page in Zoo while you are at it?

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I just would just be an ass and come up with excuses not to see these people as often as I can get away with without looking like a reclusive weirdo. I know exactly what you are talking about, I my self am on a Games design course at uni, and some of the characters I find myself talking too day to day I wouldnt DREAM of introducing to my mates back home, and I avoid these people where ever possible. Obviously You are just more courteous than I, and fair play to you for that.

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The lounge has and does cover many topics and not all males are incapable of having adult conversations of such nature. But yeah, clearly not on here, so my bad. Won't happen again, I can assure you ;-)

 

Positive positive positive, got it.

 

Not even be positve, postive, positive, just stop being such a pansy. If anyone i know started bleating on about how sh*t their lives are they would be told to stop being so self indulgent, pull themselves together and sort it out, i'd expect the same to be said to myself if i ever did such a thing. Maybe thats the wrong thing to say in this lilly livered, lets talk about our emotions culture that has been created over the last 20 years,, but f*ck it, people need to man up.

 

In answer to your OP though, just avoid them, tell them they bore the sh*t out of you. Although maybe you could instigate some "it life really all that" debates and see what they have to say about it? I am sure they'd probably agree with you.

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I just would just be an ass and come up with excuses not to see these people as often as I can get away with without looking like a reclusive weirdo. I know exactly what you are talking about, I my self am on a Games design course at uni, and some of the characters I find myself talking too day to day I wouldnt DREAM of introducing to my mates back home, and I avoid these people where ever possible. Obviously You are just more courteous than I, and fair play to you for that.

 

Thanks Jonny, knew I wouldn't be the only one in such situations and that it wasn't too much to ask for a sensible response.

 

I get texts from these sorts of friends all the time about meeting up, often weeks apart. I put it to the back of my mind that I must meet up with them but it often gets forgotten about and doesn't happen for ages but when I do meet up with them it's just very obvious very quickly why I don't feel compelled to meet them a lot.

 

Not like I can afford to be fussy but I shouldnt feel compelled to meet these people I guess.

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No I don't actually. As I've said, some of the more mature members of this site were actually helpful.

 

This is the problem with the politically correct Socialist system that has brainwashed weak minded people. Instead of dealing with problems the said people look for sympathy and hugs. Instead of them being categorised as freaks and weirdos the PC brigade have come up with terms such as OCD, CFS, Bi-Polar, SAD, GAD, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, PTSD. These terms attempt to de-stigmatise being bonkers and even make being bonkers fashionable. Without the agenda of acceptability you would have dealt with having a crap life, but because of the agenda of acceptability you started the thread "Is Life Really All That?" and made a tit of yourself. Thanks to the therapy given to you by myself and others you were made to feel like a tit, and this is exactly what you needed, because now you know that acting like a nutcase is acceptable. Judging by your posts on this thread the treatment clearly hasn't been completely successful, but you're not alone - most of the people on this forum are just like you.

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Not even be positve, postive, positive, just stop being such a pansy. If anyone i know started bleating on about how sh*t their lives are they would be told to stop being so self indulgent, pull themselves together and sort it out, i'd expect the same to be said to myself if i ever did such a thing. Maybe thats the wrong thing to say in this lilly livered, lets talk about our emotions culture that has been created over the last 20 years,, but f*ck it, people need to man up.

 

In answer to your OP though, just avoid them, tell them they bore the sh*t out of you. Although maybe you could instigate some "it life really all that" debates and see what they have to say about it? I am sure they'd probably agree with you.

 

You are assuming that because I post such questions on line that I'm like that in person! You'd be surprised!!

 

If anything it's just too easy to discuss the little things that irritate me in life on a forum where I am anonymous...Especially after drinking copious amounts of alcohol in such cases as NY eve and last night ;-)

 

These things aren't things that dominate my life, just things to discuss so I'm not actually as depressing as you have concluded

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This is the problem with the politically correct Socialist system that has brainwashed weak minded people. Instead of dealing with problems the said people look for sympathy and hugs. Instead of them being categorised as freaks and weirdos the PC brigade have come up with terms such as OCD, CFS, Bi-Polar, SAD, GAD, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, PTSD. These terms attempt to de-stigmatise being bonkers and even make being bonkers fashionable. Without the agenda of acceptability you would have dealt with having a crap life, but because of the agenda of acceptability you started the thread "Is Life Really All That?" and made a tit of yourself. Thanks to the therapy given to you by myself and others you were made to feel like a tit, and this is exactly what you needed, because now you know that acting like a nutcase is acceptable. Judging by your posts on this thread the treatment clearly hasn't been completely successful, but you're not alone - most of the people on this forum are just like you.

 

Haha. Seriously, you are so unaware of your own faults.

 

Ive never been after sympathy in any of my threads despite what you think. I just felt they were worthy of discussion.

 

I don't believe all your spill about OCD etc being a load of cr@p. Unless you have experienced something you can't possibly understand.

 

As for me being a tit, we obviously have more in common than you think then.

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Haha. Seriously, you are so unaware of your own faults.

 

Ive never been after sympathy in any of my threads despite what you think. I just felt they were worthy of discussion.

 

I don't believe all your spill about OCD etc being a load of cr@p. Unless you have experienced something you can't possibly understand.

 

As for me being a tit, we obviously have more in common than you think then.

 

You were clearly after sympathy because you have been critical of the constructive contributions to deal with your issues. I don't think you are completely bonkers, but you are half vegetarian so you're not exactly normal and starting a thread "Is Life Really All That?" is not something a poster of sound mind would do.

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You are assuming that because I post such questions on line that I'm like that in person! You'd be surprised!!

If anything it's just too easy to discuss the little things that irritate me in life on a forum where I am anonymous...Especially after drinking copious amounts of alcohol in such cases as NY eve and last night ;-)

 

These things aren't things that dominate my life, just things to discuss so I'm not actually as depressing as you have concluded

 

You're right i would be.

 

BTW, if you are p*ssed up on NYE and writting on an internet forum "is life really all that" they maybe you are deluding yourself and you are as depressing in real life as you are on here?

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If you're honest with yourself, you probably can't afford to be too choosy. If you're anything like this in real life, you're not going to have people queuing around the block to be your friend. I say hang on to these ones: suicide is probably only a couple less friends away for you.

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It was a particularly disappointing new years eve and I'd got back to my room and posted that after a quick browse on here. Admittedly don't know what possessed me to write it at the time but I think the alcohol randomly brought out the negativity. It's not unheard of.

 

Those that know me would be pretty surprised by how I am perceived on here and I know full well that's my fault. Whoops! Life goes on (that is a good thing btw) :)

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- Pucheon's mental state reason for his omission.

 

Puncheon you c o c k. You don't know a good opportunity when you see it.

Good comment regarding saints only wanting players that will give everything to saints when they put the shirt on.

 

http://www.saintsweb.co.uk/showthread.php?27749-Adkins-post-Tranmere-interview

 

Can you please comment on your remarks r.e Punchion and explain why his condition is worthy of ridicule but similar comments on the "Is Life All That?" thread weren't?

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If you're honest with yourself, you probably can't afford to be too choosy. If you're anything like this in real life, you're not going to have people queuing around the block to be your friend. I say hang on to these ones: suicide is probably only a couple less friends away for you.

 

After you.

 

Already explained that the negativity on here was to generate deep discussion and that it's not a direct representation of me as a person in real life.

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It was a particularly disappointing new years eve and I'd got back to my room and posted that after a quick browse on here. Admittedly don't know what possessed me to write it at the time but I think the alcohol randomly brought out the negativity. It's not unheard of.

 

You should see some peoples posts when they're on M-Cat.;)

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http://www.saintsweb.co.uk/showthread.php?27749-Adkins-post-Tranmere-interview

 

Can you please comment on your remarks r.e Punchion and explain why his condition is worthy of ridicule but similar comments on the "Is Life All That?" thread weren't?

 

I certainly wouldn't be complaining in his position. He doesn't have a condition unless arrogantly thinking your better than saints is a condition.

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Just been out on a night out with some friends i've acquired over the last few years, made up of a girl I was dating for a while, her current partner and my current lodger and I have spent the evening in absolute disbelief regarding how boring and insanely sad the topics of conversation were. It was filled with awkward fake laughing, my lodger babbling b0llocks trying to impress the other two and conversations on everything from laundry to growing your own veg to how my exes partner found an abnormally long pube the other day...all of which the three of them couldn't have looked happier discussing while I sit there and wonder why I bother...

 

Am I wrong to be considering/asking my fellow posters how best to separate myself from these people in the least harmful way or should I put up with these sorts of scenarios and be grateful they want to be around me....despite me feeling like I have just spent the night in a mental asylum??

 

One thing i have, unbelievably, failed to mention so far, is your trio of pals. Firstly, hanging out with someone you live with who you are not in an emotional realtionship with is unhealthy, not least of all because of the gay rumours they will incur. However more worryingly is your association with your ex and her new partner. You are always going to find them boring because you resent the ex for dumping you, you resent her current boyfriend because you are jealous of the fact he is pounding the woman you undoubtedly still have feelings for, why else would you still be associating with her unless it was to cling onto the remote possibility that she may at some point want you back?

 

You will of course, be looking for ways to usurp your ex's current partner because you are bitterly jealous of him. Finding fault in his conversation is natural response and a symptom of your deep seated jealousy that you feel toward him. I am sure amidst all your fake laughter, you looked across at her being genuinely impressed and amused at his anecdotes and the way her hair tumbled cutely over her eyes as her head tilted backward in genuine laughter and appreciaton of her new boyfriends humour, in a way could only have dreamed of during your time with her, did the thought "what is she doing with him?" enter your head at any point? No need to answer that, it's natural reaction that envy produces.

 

The first step on the road to your emotional salvation is to cut off all contact with the ex, harbouring feelings for a woman that doesn't want you and has clearly moved on is fatal error. That way not only will you rid yourselves of these dull "friends" but you will also start the recovery process that all scorned partners need to go through. It's a long and difficult road ahead but luckily for you you have this forum to discuss your emotional issues and get some sensible and caring advice from like minded individuals. Good Luck.

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One thing i have, unbelievably, failed to mention so far, is your trio of pals. Firstly, hanging out with someone you live with who you are not in an emotional realtionship with is unhealthy, not least of all because of the gay rumours they will incur. However more worryingly is your association with your ex and her new partner. You are always going to find them boring because you resent the ex for dumping you, you resent her current boyfriend because you are jealous of the fact he is pounding the woman you undoubtedly still have feelings for, why else would you still be associating with her unless it was to cling onto the remote possibility that she may at some point want you back?

 

You will of course, be looking for ways to usurp your ex's current partner because you are bitterly jealous of him. Finding fault in his conversation is natural response and a symptom of your deep seated jealousy that you feel toward him. I am sure amidst all your fake laughter, you looked across at her being genuinely impressed and amused at his anecdotes and the way her hair tumbled cutely over her eyes as her head tilted backward in genuine laughter and appreciaton of her new boyfriends humour, in a way could only have dreamed of during your time with her, did the thought "what is she doing with him?" enter your head at any point? No need to answer that, it's natural reaction that envy produces.

 

The first step on the road to your emotional salvation is to cut off all contact with the ex, harbouring feelings for a woman that doesn't want you and has clearly moved on is fatal error. That way not only will you rid yourselves of these dull "friends" but you will also start the recovery process that all scorned partners need to go through. It's a long and difficult road ahead but luckily for you you have this forum to discuss your emotional issues and get some sensible and caring advice from like minded individuals. Good Luck.

 

You could have saved yourself from all that typing by first asking who dumped who. I finished with her because we were better suited as friends, hence remaining in contact.

 

But otherwise you would be spot on I'm sure (well, apart from also assuming my lodger is male)

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Just been out on a night out with some friends i've acquired over the last few years, made up of a girl I was dating for a while, her current partner and my current lodger and I have spent the evening in absolute disbelief regarding how boring and insanely sad the topics of conversation were. It was filled with awkward fake laughing, my lodger babbling b0llocks trying to impress the other two and conversations on everything from laundry to growing your own veg to how my exes partner found an abnormally long pube the other day...all of which the three of them couldn't have looked happier discussing while I sit there and wonder why I bother...

 

Am I wrong to be considering/asking my fellow posters how best to separate myself from these people in the least harmful way or should I put up with these sorts of scenarios and be grateful they want to be around me....despite me feeling like I have just spent the night in a mental asylum??

 

Are you sure that the 'friends' that you spent the evening with weren't (unknowingly).....dune & turkish?

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You could have saved yourself from all that typing by first asking who dumped who. I finished with her because we were better suited as friends, hence remaining in contact.

 

But otherwise you would be spot on I'm sure.

 

Was this because you didn't fancy her and couldn't get it up?

 

Of course you did, no man likes to admit to being dumped. Dont worry, denial is also a side effect of rejection, but we can work through this as well.

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Was this because you didn't fancy her and couldn't get it up?

 

Of course you did, no man likes to admit to being dumped. Dont worry, denial is also a side effect of rejection, but we can work through this as well.

 

Lol. I didnt actually fancy her and I take pride in the fact I'm no male sl@g so wouldn't take advantage for the hell of it. (bet you would and that makes you more of a man)

 

I don't need help in denial. I did actually finish with this one but no problem in admitting girls have called it off in the past too. But you'll still tar me with your brush again and claim im lieing. (why would someone bother lieing on a forum?!?)

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Lol. I didnt actually fancy her and I take pride in the fact I'm no male sl@g so wouldn't take advantage for the hell of it. (bet you would and that makes you more of a man)

 

I don't need help in denial. I did actually finish with this one but no problem in admitting girls have called it off in the past too. But you'll still tar me with your brush again and claim im lieing. (why would someone bother lieing on a forum?!?)

 

So you went out with a girl you didn't fancy? You are sounding more desperate by the second my tree trunked legged chum, no wonder life isn't "all that"

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