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As much as I enjoy my digital sojourns in the wilds of SaintsWeb, there is one thing about the site that irks me. The swear filter.

 

Personally, swearing has never really bothered me. I have a fifteen-year old daughter who frequently drops the F-Bomb in the house. Whatever. There are worse things that she could be doing at that age.

 

So, back to swearing on SaintsWeb. Why is it banned? What's the point? I mean, you don't have to be able to do the Times crossword to ascertain what f**k means. There have been cases, particularly during our protracted wrangle to get Nige down here, when the swear filter actually degraded the user experience. Anyone posting a link to anything Scunny-related soon found that out.

 

So, in the immortal words of a Master Eric Cartman, "What's the big ****ing deal, *****?". It's not like this site is ToddlersWeb. We're footy fans, and anyone who's been in a ground will have heard it all before.

 

I'd be particularly interested in the views of those who set the policy, but it'd be equally interesting to determine attitudes to swearing across the board.

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:rolleyes:

 

I can't believe you'd think that's acceptable behaviour.

 

Feel free to believe something else, then. From your colourful and entertaining posts, I don't see that as being a stretch.

 

Don't get me wrong, I won't let her swear at people, and she knows better not to do it in front of company, but what's the harm?

 

The fundamental character of desire is wanting what you can't have. There are far bigger battles to win as a parent than stopping a bit of blue language.

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I'm all in favour of removing the swear filter as well, I suspect it's a legal thing due to the 13+ nature of the site.

 

That and Baj being a fudging kent.

 

I have at least 13 and three quarter years to wait before I'd have to worry about teenagers swearing, so I'm staying out of that one. :D

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Personally, I don`t see either the need or the purpose in swearing all of the time. I work on building sites so I use (and am used to) every swear word that you could mention but I think that bad language has a time and place. When I was growing up swearing was shocking because you didn`t hear it all the time, but nowadays the continual and casual use of foul langauge is just annoying and has lost the shock value that it is meant to have. I also find it a bit depressing that people nowadays only seem to be able to express themselves by using swearing and ingnoring most of the thousands of other words in the English language, but hey - that`s me!

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Indeed, and on the flip side, it's not impossible to be extremely offensive without cussing.

 

Indeed. That's why the red card offence was changed from 'foul and abusive language' to 'offensive, abusive, or insulting language or gestures'. It is quite possible for one player to swear at another, but if no offence is taken then an offence may not have been committed. On the other hand, you can insult an opponent without swearing.

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So if, as a couple of people have mentioned, it's all about context - why the blanket ban on swearing? SaintsWeb rightly has a policy in place for racism and has moderators.

 

Why must we make S****horpe a four star location?

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My daughter is 9, and has been a quite a few Saints games, at which many Saints fans and myself swear my head off and get very angry. I have told her that in the football ground it is fine for adults, but she must not repeat any of it outside the ground, and she does not say any of it at all.

 

Now she is 9, but when she gets a little older, I will not be to bothered about her swearing at all, but if she ever swears at school, at a teacher, or in front of any of the family then I would not allow it. I think people get to worked up about the wrong things. Swearing, drinking and drugs seem to be top of the agenda when it comes to children. Now I have done all of these things and still do.

 

The main reason in my early teens from 14 onwards I used to drink until I passed out, smoked enough puff until I ate the whole of the biscuit section of Safeway or the local garage and sweared as much as I could (mostly at football) was because my dad used to go on and on in a very serious way that I should not do these things. My dad was an ex copper (rest his soul) and I was scared of him, but used to rebel against him too.

 

I would go as far as encouraging my daughter to drink with us, and to even try drugs when she is a little older 15/16 but at the house. Come on most kids are going to do it anyway at some point so I would be prefer to be the one to tell her about it than a spotty 14/15 year old guy at a party!!

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I would go as far as encouraging my daughter to drink with us, and to even try drugs when she is a little older 15/16 but at the house. Come on most kids are going to do it anyway at some point so I would be prefer to be the one to tell her about it than a spotty 14/15 year old guy at a party!!

 

Crack Cocaine or Heroin first?

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last week i asked my grandson to turn his x-box down as his nan was in bed, without even looking up said 'f off'. my jaw dropped but his mum went mental, when i eventually came round his mum was still steaming into him which i (maybe wrongly) found mildly amusing and could not contain a giggle, she the proceded to stare at me, eventually to break the dead-lock she too told me to 'f off' which resulted in all three of us laughing.

 

true story which i feel demonstrates that although we may all have different opinions on kids (and adults) swearing it can be both offensive and amusing.

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At what age will you let her do sex? Will this be at the house too, under your supervision and with a lover of your choosing?

 

Sex is never going to happen, but when she is older and if she has a relationship I will let them sleep together under my roof, but again better than her sneaking behind my back with something she is going to want to do, no matter how much I do not want my little girl to grow up, she is going to.

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last week i asked my grandson to turn his x-box down as his nan was in bed, without even looking up said 'f off'. my jaw dropped but his mum went mental, when i eventually came round his mum was still steaming into him which i (maybe wrongly) found mildly amusing and could not contain a giggle, she the proceded to stare at me, eventually to break the dead-lock she too told me to 'f off' which resulted in all three of us laughing.

 

true story which i feel demonstrates that although we may all have different opinions on kids (and adults) swearing it can be both offensive and amusing.

 

How old is he?

 

You can swear in a joking way and I do all the time as it is all in the tone.

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How old is he?

 

You can swear in a joking way and I do all the time as it is all in the tone.

 

8, ****ing 8! as i said, i was so shocked that i did not know how to react.

 

the only time that he ever hears me swear is when i am speaking to mrs h.

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I sat in the itchen corner with one of my 6 year old twin daughters last week, which is probably not the best place to take young kids, especially at the back of block 4. After a rendition of "you skate bastard", she said, "Dad, what's a skate?". I presume she knows the meaning of bastard.

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Anyway, perhaps one of the most interesting and colorful words in the English language is the word "****". It is the one magical word, which, just by its sound, can describe pain, pleasure, love, and hate.

 

In language, "****" falls into many grammatical catagories. It can be used as a verb, both transitive (John ****ed Mary) and intransitive (Mary was ****ed by John). It can be an active verb (John really gives a ****) or passive verb ( Mary really doesn't give a ****) ; or an adverb (Mary is ****ing interested in John), and as a noun (Mary is a terrific ****). It can be used as an adjective (Mary is ****ing beautiful).

 

As you can see, there are very few words with versitility of "****" .Besides its sexual connotations this incredible word can be used to describe many situations:

 

Greetings----------------------How the **** are you?

Fraud--------------------------I got ****ed by the car dealer.

Dismay-------------------------Oh, **** it!

Trouble------------------------Well, I guess I'm ****ed now.

Aggression---------------------**** You!

Disgust------------------------**** Me!

Confusion----------------------What the ****-------?

Difficulty-----------------------I don't understand this ****ing question.

Dispair------------------------****ed again.

Incompetence-------------------He ****s up everthing.

Displeasure--------------------What the **** is going on here?

Lost---------------------------Where the **** are we?

Disbelief----------------------Un****ingbelievable!

Retaliation--------------------Up your ****ing ass!

 

It can be used to tell time---------------------It's five ****ing thirty!

It can be used in an anatomical description-----He's a ****ing ****!

It can be used in bussiness--------------------How the **** did I wind up with this job?

It can be maternal---------------------------- as in "Mother****er"

It can be politcal------------------------------ "**** Clegg"

 

And never forget General Custer's last words -------------------------------------------- "Where did all them ****ing indians come from?"

Also, the famous last words of the mayor of Hiroshima ----------------------------------- "What the **** was that?"

And, last, but not least, the immortal words of the captain of the Titanic, who said, ------- "Where is all this ****ing water coming from?"

 

The mind fairly boggles at the many creative uses of the word. How can anyone be offended when you say "****"?

 

 

Use it frequently in your speech and it will add to your fame and prestige. Today say to someone- "**** YOU"

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De Puta Madre. Cabron. Cono.

 

Those are three highly offensive Spanish words, mostly corresponding to "son of a b-t-h", b--t--d, and c--t'.

 

If these phrases pass through undisturbed, does that mean that it's okay for Spaniards to come on here and insult us uncensored, while we fire back with our neutered blanks?

 

What happens if we suddenly develop a beef with a Spanish team? Or worse still, a group of Spaniards become deranged and become Spanish Pompey fans?

 

And it's not just Spain either. At the very least, anyone with a Western-based character set can come on here and call us c--ts, and there's nothing we can do about it.

 

Yet another compelling argument for the removal of the swear ban :)

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Sex is never going to happen, but when she is older and if she has a relationship I will let them sleep together under my roof, but again better than her sneaking behind my back with something she is going to want to do, no matter how much I do not want my little girl to grow up, she is going to.

 

What if she is in a relationship when she's older and you can hear her boyfriend saying to her, through the bedroom wall in your house, "come on darling, let's do it up the sh*tter"? Would you be alright with that?

 

(and to clarify, in this sceanrio he is asking her to f*ck him up the ass with a strap-on)

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What if she is in a relationship when she's older and you can hear her boyfriend saying to her, through the bedroom wall in your house, "come on darling, let's do it up the sh*tter"? Would you be alright with that?

 

(and to clarify, in this sceanrio he is asking her to f*ck him up the ass with a strap-on)

 

Your mum must be proud.

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I had a whinge about this on that stuwall house of fun thread. Not only is their swear filter conspicuous by its absence, but when a mod deleted a couple of posts he immediately got slated for it and explained "it was just two members c*nting each other" hahahaa, I can just see Steve Grant or Baj taking that line. Mores the pity imho

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What if she is in a relationship when she's older and you can hear her boyfriend saying to her, through the bedroom wall in your house, "come on darling, let's do it up the sh*tter"? Would you be alright with that?

 

(and to clarify, in this sceanrio he is asking her to f*ck him up the ass with a strap-on)

 

I will ignore this one and just hope that it never come up in my life!!!

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prior to my daughter getting wed the girls decided it would be fun to give then both a 'Mr & Mrs' style questionairre to see if how well they knew each other. Nipper was a bit coy and unbeknown to me the fool typed his answers on my computer. I found the document one day after the ceremony and curiosity got the better of me.

 

All started quite innocently, where did you meet? what's her favourite drink? etc, then came the more in-depth stuff, I will spare you the detail, suffice to say i was mortified and in all honesty I was proper shocked by his answers...our little princess!!!!

 

Took me quite some time to be able to look her in the eye after that but when I told mrs h, who was there at the hen night when they were read out, of my fatal discovery she just said 'well, hammy it's a blessing they didn't ask YOU the same questions' I blushed and we lolled.

 

true story.

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My daughter is 9, and has been a quite a few Saints games, at which many Saints fans and myself swear my head off and get very angry. I have told her that in the football ground it is fine for adults, but she must not repeat any of it outside the ground, and she does not say any of it at all.

 

Now she is 9, but when she gets a little older, I will not be to bothered about her swearing at all, but if she ever swears at school, at a teacher, or in front of any of the family then I would not allow it. I think people get to worked up about the wrong things. Swearing, drinking and drugs seem to be top of the agenda when it comes to children. Now I have done all of these things and still do.

 

The main reason in my early teens from 14 onwards I used to drink until I passed out, smoked enough puff until I ate the whole of the biscuit section of Safeway or the local garage and sweared as much as I could (mostly at football) was because my dad used to go on and on in a very serious way that I should not do these things. My dad was an ex copper (rest his soul) and I was scared of him, but used to rebel against him too.

 

I would go as far as encouraging my daughter to drink with us, and to even try drugs when she is a little older 15/16 but at the house. Come on most kids are going to do it anyway at some point so I would be prefer to be the one to tell her about it than a spotty 14/15 year old guy at a party!!

 

Good to remember that it doesn't always turn out that way. My parents were strict but I rarely feel the need to swear and I don't take drugs.

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De Puta Madre. Cabron. Cono.

 

Those are three highly offensive Spanish words, mostly corresponding to "son of a b-t-h", b--t--d, and c--t'.

 

If these phrases pass through undisturbed, does that mean that it's okay for Spaniards to come on here and insult us uncensored, while we fire back with our neutered blanks?

 

What happens if we suddenly develop a beef with a Spanish team? Or worse still, a group of Spaniards become deranged and become Spanish Pompey fans?

 

And it's not just Spain either. At the very least, anyone with a Western-based character set can come on here and call us c--ts, and there's nothing we can do about it.

 

Yet another compelling argument for the removal of the swear ban :)

 

I think you mean 'terrible argument', as those words may be signifiers, but they do not have signifieds attached to them for 99.9% of posters on here.

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I've really never understood why people get so offended by the F word. Really, what's so bad about it? It's just a word for f***'s sake! People don't get offended at hearing the word duck, or luck, or muck, so clearly it isn't the sound or cadence of the word that offends. Neither do the same people get offended by hearing ****, or make love to, or have sex with, so it isn't the connotation of it either. So what exactly is it about that one particular word that people get so uppity about? I guess it comes down to social conditioning or just plain snobbery.

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The swear filter even edits the word S H A G? What's the world coming to?
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I think you mean 'terrible argument', as those words may be signifiers, but they do not have signifieds attached to them for 99.9% of posters on here.

 

How dismissive you are of our potential collective multilingual potential. I'm sure many of us know foreign swear words. Knowing how to tell a Frenchman to "f--k off" was an extra-curricular highlight of my secondary education.

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