Thedelldays Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 a work colleague is getting married tomorrow...he was telling us (to his horror) that the wedding and the honeymoon is costing around £15k+ is that acceptable or are blokes (like me) easily pleased and would get married in the registery office.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saint lard Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 (edited) I think when we were arranging ours we got to about £12k without a honeymoon. that was about 4 years ago,anyway,£12k saved in the end. However i did want to do the whole package,it was supposed to be a special day and only happen once in your lifetime.....god i'm so nieve. I have overseen many a wedding that has far exceeded £15k,and that was only the reception...wedding breakfast,accomodation,drinks packages and such like. Edited 30 July, 2010 by saint lard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy_Porter Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 15k is nothing on a wedding for some people. My parents are wedding photographers and have all sorts of stories, one couple paid 45k just to have a marquee outside for the reception... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smirking_Saint Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 I am getting married in Sept next year We started with a budget of 5k, its now up to 15k odd. Depends on the sort of day you want. I chose my ring, the venue, the food and the entertainment, i told her they were what i was deciding and anything else was up to her to make her mind up for. Thats without a honeymoon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 I am getting married in Sept next year We started with a budget of 5k, its now up to 15k odd. Depends on the sort of day you want. I chose my ring, the venue, the food and the entertainment, i told her they were what i was deciding and anything else was up to her to make her mind up for. Thats without a honeymoon a mate from work spent £25k on his plus honeymoon. Bit of a flash c*nt, one of them you know. Got to say class do and venue though. Just a shame his mug was in most of the photos and ruined what would have been decents shots of his not bad looking wife and the surrounding areas. http://www.elvethamhotel.co.uk/weddings_partnerships.aspx# Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thedelldays Posted 30 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 30 July, 2010 £25k on a wedding......dear christ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smirking_Saint Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 I got a nice venue, and a decent after ceremony venue (different as the evening venue has 300 capacity, ceremony only has 120). Didn't have that much to spend, and to be honest 15k is about my limit TBH, there is just no need to spend K's and K's on a single day, thats my opinion anyways. Gonna do the honeymoon a year after, prob go travelling for a month or two i think, as we bought a house instead when we were younger (bad move that). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigersaint Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 My other half and me are going into what will be a 2nd marriage for both of us on Dec 20th this year, although we've kept costs down, limited guest numbers mainly to immediate and close family, using registry office, etc it's still costing us over 6k in total including the honeymoon and is half the cost of my first one but still bloody steep... seems my idea of small and cheap wasn't the same as hers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mack rill Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 £25k on a wedding......dear christ Frightening init! We had a white wedding Dress £210 St Marys church £15+ £5 for the bells Venue + sit down meal £150 We paid for the booze about £100 We had 70 guests No honeymoon as my ship was sailing two days after, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baj Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 me and the gf have said if/when we do it, we are going to **** off on holiday and then come back with rings on our fingers. As far as we are both concerned, its a second marriage for both of us, people have already had their "big day" out of her+ex and me + ex wedding days. The wedding day should be about sealing a bond between two people, not ****ing money up the wall. We're going to take whatever money we would have spent on wedding and use it ALL on the honeymoon, then scrape a few quid together on our return and have a big party Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saint lard Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Frightening init! We had a white wedding Dress £210 St Marys church £15+ £5 for the bells Venue + sit down meal £150 We paid for the booze about £100 We had 70 guests No honeymoon as my ship was sailing two days after, I'm sure W******d would've obliged for half that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thedelldays Posted 30 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Frightening init! We had a white wedding Dress £210 St Marys church £15+ £5 for the bells Venue + sit down meal £150 We paid for the booze about £100 We had 70 guests No honeymoon as my ship was sailing two days after, costs that much to marry your sister..? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hatch Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 tried to keep costs down on ours, ending up spending thick end of £17k including honeymoon. Took our 3 kids on honeymoon with us so that where most of the cash went. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chorlton Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Got hitched just over ten years ago. Cost us less than £500 thanks to mates who were DJs, caterers, deal with my old mans local, free hall hire from my work etc etc. We were dead lucky. But it was a truly fantastic day. But my bro & sis both had big weddings and they were fantastic days as well. It is all to do with how relaxed or formal you want it & how much you are prepared to say 'don't care what people want, this is what we want' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bridge too far Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 A rule of thumb IMO:- The more the wedding costs, the shorter the marriage will be Yours Old Cynic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doctoroncall Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 The Wedding day cost about £2.5k, with £2k the cost of the photograph! That was one thing we didn't scrimp on as it's not something you can do again and we wanted some decent photos of the event. The drink we got from Tesco when it was 25% off and an extra 5% for a case, so got some decent champagne a couple of months before the day, food was from Waitrose catering, my mum made the cake (her hobby) and the reception was at our house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjii Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 I'm going to one tomorrow actually! I've looked up the place where it is on t'internet. For the particular venue they've chosen it's £209 per guest, provided there are over 120 of them. So, that's £25k straight away, assuming there are 120 of us there. The venue can take up to 290 so you might be doubling that! That's before wedding dress, usher's outfits, hired entertainment, cake and various other extras. On top of that, we've all been offered a room at the hotel paid for. Their cheapest standard tarif is something like £230 so you can probably add on anything between another £20k - £50k. Basically the whole thing's going to cost an utter **** load. Mental really but I intend to enjoy myself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
View From The Top Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 I got hitched 10 years ago and we did it for around £6000 including three weeks motorhoming around British Columbia. My BiL did the photos, Corky Morris and AN Other supplied the cars, my wife did all the flowers, friend did the cake, wine came from France via a booxe cruise and we did all the stationary ourselves. Bloody great it was. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint-scooby Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 It will all end in tears "it will" HTH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deppo Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Weddings have their own economic bubble. They exist outside of the normal economy, whatever it is doing. Stick the word 'Wedding' in front of something you'd buy for any other occasion and you have to stick another '0' on the end of the price tag: a decent, posh cake = £40; Wedding cake = £400, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjii Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Weddings have their own economic bubble. They exist outside of the normal economy, whatever it is doing. Stick the word 'Wedding' in front of something you'd buy for any other occasion and you have to stick another '0' on the end of the price tag: a decent, posh cake = £40; Wedding cake = £400, etc. All cakes are a bit of a ****-take IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huffton Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Spent less than a grand on ours, and it was bloody perfect. Wife has a massive family so a big sit down do was never going to happen. Service at registry office, meal and a few drinks for those at service in Georges (who really went out of their way for us), back to the hotel to 'cement' the marriage, then hired a big hall in the evening for whoever wanted to come. And pleased to say were still going strong 11 years and 4 kids later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorpe-le-Saint Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 That is why I'm getting married in Greece for peanuts! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baj Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 That is why I'm getting married in Greece for peanuts! Would making a joke about marrying a monkey be too obvious? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 A rule of thumb IMO:- The more the wedding costs, the shorter the marriage will be Yours Old Cynic amusing, and probably accurate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 ...oh, and my small contribution to the thread is that I was contacted last week about a hire job for a wedding reception up Camberley way. I quoted a price which they were ok with, then they told me the date: Friday 13th August. I kid you not. Couldnt do it as Im away on holiday til the Saturday, but I was a bit stunned, getting hitched on friday the thirteenth, wtf?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 end of the day, doesn't really matter how much it costs, if you are both happy with it, people that matter are there for you and you enjoy the day. its about you two and it's only one day at the end of the day, no point paying for it for the next 10 years just so you can say you had a flash wedding. Stats suggest by the time you finished paying for it you'll be getting divorce anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pedg Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 Due to a family feud on my Wife's side (one brother was a bit miffed that her dad chose to go to a Brighton cup match than his wedding so then did not speak again for about 30 years) we decided to avoid the problems of who to invite so got married on our own in Kenya instead. Effectively had the honeymoon (safari and learning to scuba dive) before the wedding which was a bit odd but worked out well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minsk Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 (edited) Mrs Minsk and I did something very similar to that which Baj suggested. We met when both working in Cyprus. As that time was coming to a close we had decided to get married but working out where to do it was problematic. No way would we have got visas for all her family and friends to go to the UK. My family would have complained like hell if we had got married in Belarus (and the visas. flights, hotels, etc would have cost a fortune). So we decided, a few weeks before we due to leave Cyprus, to just get married there and then tell everyone about it afterwards. I had some complaints (notably my mother) but pointed out that I had saved them money as they didn't even have to buy so much as a wedding card for us. At the end of the day we were very happy with our decision. Edited 30 July, 2010 by Minsk 'cause I didn't quote Baj properly. Doh! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harvey Posted 30 July, 2010 Share Posted 30 July, 2010 If you spend over £750.00 for the day, you're a mug................it's only for one day, and besides, most of em divorce after a few years anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LGTL Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 Some of the best weddings I have been to have been on a very limited budget. I'd rather spend the money on the honeymoon then a poncy wedding with people you don't really like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericofarabia Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 £25k on a wedding......dear christ The divorce will be much much more expensive than that f'sure!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericofarabia Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 Spent less than a grand on ours, and it was bloody perfect. Wife has a massive family so a big sit down do was never going to happen. Service at registry office, meal and a few drinks for those at service in Georges (who really went out of their way for us), back to the hotel to 'cement' the marriage, then hired a big hall in the evening for whoever wanted to come. And pleased to say were still going strong 11 years and 4 kids later. LOL .... sounds like you have some pretty potent cement !!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CB Saint Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 Weddings have their own economic bubble. They exist outside of the normal economy, whatever it is doing. Stick the word 'Wedding' in front of something you'd buy for any other occasion and you have to stick another '0' on the end of the price tag: a decent, posh cake = £40; Wedding cake = £400, etc. There nothing like a bit of emotive spending. The supplier know this and take full advantage of the fact. It's things like invites and the ****e you have to put on the table that gets me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hamster Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 We're off to a wedding on a couple of weeks that has been brought forward, it was going to be in 2 years time. Originally the costs, as I am led to believe, were going to put my sis and bruv-in-law into some pretty serious debt. As we all know when the old heart rules the head we all make crazy decisions this was one such case imho. However the couple had a massive change of heart and decided that they just want to be married to each other, result. E-bay for the dress, Register* Office service, cars courtesy of friends and family (I'm taking the GP's in the yellow beast), reception in new In-laws house and garden. They wil in my opinion remember their special day for all the right reasons. The ring on the finger and the tender looks that bond you through that little piece of paper with your two names on it are ALL that matters. Having your two names on a credit agreement can imho delay your enjoyment of what you have embarked on, being a married couple. Fair play if you have the wonga to splash but at the end of the day people who go nuts really do not impress anyone, in fact in my experience it is the big do's where you find guests dissing the the event and is where you hear the most *****iness, rather than the budget one's where people have no air's and graces to put on so just take it for what it is. My first wedding was not over the top but cost my ex FIL a bucketload (Romsey Abbey no less). When mrs h made me marry her my Mum did the cake and altered the dress which was from Plummer's closing gown sale, my suit was from a Burton's sale, she arrived by taxi after her mate's car broke down en-route, bubbly (99p a bottle) was from that little convenience store in Millbrook and the **** up was in a WM club where my old man put a couple of hundred quid over the bar. We even had to put people up on our sofa and living room floor over the weekend. Conclusion: wedding number 1, complete and utter waste of monet and my precious time. Wedding number 2, well, it all hinges on whther she gets off her lazy arse and makes me some toast. Might give it another day. * It's 'REGISTER' Office NOT 'Registry' you lunatics. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Master Bates Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 Frightening init! We had a white wedding Dress £210 St Marys church £15+ £5 for the bells Venue + sit down meal £150 We paid for the booze about £100 We had 70 guests No honeymoon as my ship was sailing two days after, costs that much to marry your sister..? And that was the last people saw of mack rill on this thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jonnyboy Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 me and the gf have said if/when we do it, we are going to **** off on holiday and then come back with rings on our fingers. As far as we are both concerned, its a second marriage for both of us, people have already had their "big day" out of her+ex and me + ex wedding days. The wedding day should be about sealing a bond between two people, not ****ing money up the wall. We're going to take whatever money we would have spent on wedding and use it ALL on the honeymoon, then scrape a few quid together on our return and have a big party this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weston Super Saint Posted 31 July, 2010 Share Posted 31 July, 2010 All cakes are a bit of a ****-take IMO. I beg to differ. http://www.krusts.co.uk/ Some of the best cakes you will EVER eat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trader Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 Divorces cost FAR more Yours Old cynic no.2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjii Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 I enjoyed the wedding I attended yesterday. Lots of free drink. Almost too much but not quite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hamster Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 and how long do you give it benji? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jillyanne Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 Our wedding cost very little as it was at the Register Office followed by a reception at The London Hotel in Oxford Street (yes it's a gay bar and my Dad paid for it and no he isn't gay) however, the 2 days/nights at the Chewton Glen cost a bloody small fortune! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mack rill Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 And that was the last people saw of mack rill on this thread. Lol, MB...Dont worry Dulldays is a (son of the beach) as well so i know hes only f*ckin with me, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Golden Balls Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 Hopefully when it comes down to taking the plunge I will still have the handy contacts that I have now. Also, I don't think people realise you can negotiate a lot on price with things like venue, cake, photographer etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjii Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 and how long do you give it benji? I reckon it's got as much chance as any marriage of going the distance. They are financially secure for life and have been together about 9 years already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hamster Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 Bet she's not as 'financially secure' as this little daddy's girl. http://www.breakingnewsonline.net/entertainment/3192-chelsea-clinton-weds-marc-mezvinsky-wedding-of-the-century.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjii Posted 1 August, 2010 Share Posted 1 August, 2010 Not quite... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thefunkygibbons Posted 2 August, 2010 Share Posted 2 August, 2010 Our Church wedding cost £1k including the honeymoon However, at the beginning we were aiming for more hymns than guests, but in the end the Priest complained about 12 hymns and the guest numbers crept up to 20 However, I can still remember the total alcohol consumed 4 beers 1 glass of Sherry ! bottle of Champagne I think that was where the money went Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mao Cap Posted 2 August, 2010 Share Posted 2 August, 2010 Cousin is getting married in September at Woburn Abbey (the poshest bit of the poshest little town I've ever been in, popped in there to have a look round on the way back from an away game a few months back and ended up a bit selfconscious because I seemed to be the only person in the whole place wearing trainers on a Sunday afternoon). Can't even guess how much it costs, dozens if not hundreds of people coming, shuttle bus from the hotel, all very fnacy, I think it's lunacy TBH but will be a good ****-up so I'm looking forward to it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SNSUN Posted 2 August, 2010 Share Posted 2 August, 2010 I was umming and ahhing about proposing to my missus. You've made my mind up for me. New car then. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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