Turkish Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 When is the right time to start discussing moving in together and adopting each others children? Is it when you the relationship is solid and ongoing or before you have even started going out with each other? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Benson Phillips Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 When is the right time to start discussing moving in together and adopting each others children? Is it when you the relationship is solid and ongoing or before you have even started going out with each other? I think exceptions in the case need to be made when the girl lives in P*rtsmouth. If there is to be any potential relationship, and before you dip your wick you need to be absolutely certain that it's going to be worth your pain. Some of the issues you need to resolve / investigate is if they would ever move out of P*rtsmouth, obviously if they won't then you might as well leave with your dignity intact and never speak to the person again. With regards to kids, it is alo important to accertain whether the child is a skate, and if it is, make it crystal clear that you won't accept any public acts of "skate c*ntishness" by the child. Adoption and moving in is only acceptable when things get serious. And the rules for non-skates? Depends what the situation, whether she has her own house, whatever the cheapest option is for you. If she is going to let you crash at hers rent free, saving you £100's then I would advise on falling in love with her very quickly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 1 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 1 July, 2010 (edited) I think exceptions in the case need to be made when the girl lives in P*rtsmouth. If there is to be any potential relationship, and before you dip your wick you need to be absolutely certain that it's going to be worth your pain. Some of the issues you need to resolve / investigate is if they would ever move out of P*rtsmouth, obviously if they won't then you might as well leave with your dignity intact and never speak to the person again. With regards to kids, it is alo important to accertain whether the child is a skate, and if it is, make it crystal clear that you won't accept any public acts of "skate c*ntishness" by the child. Adoption and moving in is only acceptable when things get serious. And the rules for non-skates? Depends what the situation, whether she has her own house, whatever the cheapest option is for you. If she is going to let you crash at hers rent free, saving you £100's then I would advise on falling in love with her very quickly. So you haven't even done that yet and you are talking about adopting her kids? Your true colours are showing- oh whats this i have just found on the shelf??? Edited 1 July, 2010 by Turkish Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastleighSoulBoy Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 When is the right time to start discussing moving in together and adopting each others children? Is it when you the relationship is solid and ongoing or before you have even started going out with each other? Been there and done the damn fool move in style as espoused by StuBensonSaint, that failed pretty quickly. I've been with my Mrs some ten years now. We did settle into the relationship quickly although we were both very careful in not letting the moment run away with us. That came soon enough when her girls asked why I 'had to go home every night' when 'Daddy doesn't make his girlfriend go home!' It's not been a bed of roses but we have not fallen out despite the baggage that would, from time to time, come back to haunt us both. Don't ever expect to get it right, always, with the other half's children. Always give your best. I've made some horrid errors but we, as a couple, have come through it all together. I wouldn't change the last ten years of my life for anything. As to adopting the children, that may, given certain circumstances, need the consent of the non resident parent and, always, how the children feel about it. If you are considering this then I wish you both, sincerely, the best of luck. If you both end up half as happy as we are then you'll be happy together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Benson Phillips Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 I am not sure if ESB is taking the p!ss or not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Essruu Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 I've made some horrid errors Were they underage? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 1 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 1 July, 2010 I am not sure if ESB is taking the p!ss or not? The other problem you are going to have is that the Skate ex and father of the child will probably want a straighter with you and will no doubt kick your c*** right back to Romsey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Benson Phillips Posted 1 July, 2010 Share Posted 1 July, 2010 The other problem you are going to have is that the Skate ex and father of the child will probably want a straighter with you and will no doubt kick your c*** right back to Romsey. He is a proper skate to be fair, a Navy c*nt. I am sure he would love the thought of an ex-army scummer bringing up his child. ( That is sarcasm by the way ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 1 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 1 July, 2010 (edited) He is a proper skate to be fair, a Navy c*nt. I am sure he would love the thought of an ex-army scummer bringing up his child. ( That is sarcasm by the way ) I might offer to hold his coat for him while he weighs you in. Edited 1 July, 2010 by Turkish Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badger Posted 2 July, 2010 Share Posted 2 July, 2010 When is the right time to start discussing moving in together and adopting each others children? Is it when you the relationship is solid and ongoing or before you have even started going out with each other? Turkish, recalling your sensitivities to the issue, just make sure her kids are not ginger first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkish Posted 2 July, 2010 Author Share Posted 2 July, 2010 Turkish, recalling your sensitivities to the issue, just make sure her kids are not ginger first. Obviously any bird with ginger kid deserves at best the spiderman treatment, or at worst, complete isolation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thedelldays Posted 3 July, 2010 Share Posted 3 July, 2010 barry, I dont think this is the best course of action Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Benson Phillips Posted 3 July, 2010 Share Posted 3 July, 2010 Never thought I would see Dulldays commenting on a thread about relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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