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I have identical twin daughters (H and C) aged 4 1/2.

 

Both the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done.

 

On the programme, I could not get over the chinese girls. The selfishness of the adoptive parents - those girls belong together. I could not possibly imagine my H & C living apart.

 

There is something special about identicals. Non identicals are just brothers and/or sisters born at the same time.

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It was a fascinating programme, I thought.

 

I agree with you about the little Chinese girls. And the research that's being done into genetic predisposition to illness such as heart disease and mental health issues such as low self-esteem / anorexia should prove invaluable I imagine.

 

I bet your little girls are a delight to you and their similarities and differences must be intriguing.

 

I note what you say about non-identical twins. My friend Rosie has a non-identical twin brother. They don't look alike at all, but goodness me her son is the spitten image of her brother!

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I bet your little girls are a delight to you and their similarities and differences must be intriguing.

 

Taking my political hat off and being more human, they are very special.

 

Identical Twin births are far more high risk, as there is a chance of twin-to-twin transfusion. We were lucky, that the consultant at Chichester is one of the leading specialists in this area and feel a debt of gratitude to him. My other half had to be scanned every two weeks throughout her pregnancy and they arrived premature - seeing their two tiny bodies in an incubator is heart renching - that time is engrained on my memory as if it was yesterday. I thought I knew what stress was until that time.

 

After their prolonged stay in hospital it was a shock to the system. When finally deciding to have a child ending up with two makes you feel special, but when the honeymoon period is over...the hard work begins. Then of course there is the cost issue - two of everything.

 

To be fair, 4 1/2 years later it is no easier. There is sibling rivalry in all families, but normally younger siblings have to give way to older siblings. Because there is nothing to differentiate them (especially as everyone treats them the same - including me), thats where the tantrums start. They try to differentiate themselves - but they can't do it. I can identify with the two brothers on the programme where they were trying to be indepedent of each other.

 

At times even now, I can't tell them apart and others there are very minor differences. In terms of personality they are very similar, but one tends to be more dominant for a few weeks, then they swap.

 

Apart from the obvious feelings any parent has, it is remarkable and fascinating to watch them interact and grow up together.

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Hi, I'm new on the forum here (and new to the UK).

 

I'm an identical twin, and I've just had a baby of my own, so I have new found respect for my parents in how much work it would have been to raise 2 babies when they were just expecting 1. 1 is hard work!

 

I think it's important to treat your twin girls as individuals. Ask them different questions, read them different books, don't always compare them. Try to treat them like siblings, not like twins. I feel special being a twin, but there were some major down-sides growing up. Always being compared was one of them.

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I think it's important to treat your twin girls as individuals. Ask them different questions, read them different books, don't always compare them. Try to treat them like siblings, not like twins. I feel special being a twin, but there were some major down-sides growing up. Always being compared was one of them.

 

I totally see where your coming from, but it is easier said than done. If we try to dress H differently from C, C wants to wear what H is wearing and vice versa, so they end up being dressed the same to keep the peace.

 

The biggest differences are in what they eat. C loves peas, carrots sweetcorn and baked beans. H won't come in the kitchen if baked beans are being cooked but loves pizza, whilst C can't stand it. I don't know if this is how they are trying to differentiate themselves, but we will have to watch it as controlling things through food is not a good way to go.

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Did you watch the second programme last night, Johnny? I thought it was even more interesting!

 

The research into genetics was fascinating. It would be marvellous if this work, using twins to validate data, leads to new ways of treating common but life-threatening illnesses such as diabetes and leukaemia. I can't remember what it was called - endogenetics?

 

The conclusion that sexuality is genetically driven was interesting too, I thought.

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Hi, I'm new on the forum here (and new to the UK).

 

I'm an identical twin, and I've just had a baby of my own, so I have new found respect for my parents in how much work it would have been to raise 2 babies when they were just expecting 1. 1 is hard work!

 

I think it's important to treat your twin girls as individuals. Ask them different questions, read them different books, don't always compare them. Try to treat them like siblings, not like twins. I feel special being a twin, but there were some major down-sides growing up. Always being compared was one of them.

 

Joint birthday presents was another! :mad:

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I have identical twin daughters (H and C) aged 4 1/2.

 

Both the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done.

 

On the programme, I could not get over the chinese girls. The selfishness of the adoptive parents - those girls belong together. I could not possibly imagine my H & C living apart.

 

There is something special about identicals. Non identicals are just brothers and/or sisters born at the same time[/n].

 

I have a brother and sister-in-law who are unidentical twins, you couldn't meet two completely different people if you wanted. Both hate each other as well due to the way they see/behave in todays society.

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I've just been watching a very interesting programme about twins and it got me wondering.

 

How many of you on here are one of a twin and are you identical?

 

You were watching a TV programme, and wondered how it related to the lives of strangers on a messageboard?

 

Weirdo.

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I was once told by stunning identical 26 year old babe chick twins in Damascus that I was their sexual fantasy.

 

I thought twins only read each others thoughts??

 

 

Oh, and I have NEVER recovered from THAT moment..

 

And just how much were you paying for the company of these delightful beauties ;)

 

Is it just a male thing to have erotic thoughts of a twins / sisters / daughter + Milf combo thing going on? Do girls have fantasies of finding male twins etc ..... cue this getting moved to TMS :D

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And just how much were you paying for the company of these delightful beauties ;)

 

Is it just a male thing to have erotic thoughts of a twins / sisters / daughter + Milf combo thing going on? Do girls have fantasies of finding male twins etc ..... cue this getting moved to TMS :D

 

 

You'll hate this - they were buying ME dinner....

 

As we don't have flickr here and I'm a dinosaur I can't Rule 1, but I'll mail you some pics....

 

As for the other question, you'll have to ask your boss that one:-)

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