I totally agree. My mum has had severe dementia now for about 10 years. She can do nothing for herself, she does not recognise anyone and has just the faintest recognition of my dad, who with help, cares for her 24 hours a day. I now struggle to remember what she was like before this set in. If I ever get this dreadful illness there is no way I want to see my days out like this, she has no quality of life at all and this may sound callous but my dad has worked all his life and his retirement has been mostly taken up with caring for my mum. He will not hear of putting her in a home and tbh I don't know how he does it, I don't honestly know that I could. I would not like people to remember me as my mum is, that's for sure.