Seaford Saint

A disgrace

Sorry mate...basically she sounds a woman of limited intellect (err she sounds thick) she should be pitied (you should feel sorry for her). She needs help.

I am going to my 14 year old daughter's prize giving tonight. She's up for an award in ICT, apparently. On an exceptionally good day she'll tell me how lucky she is to have a dad like me. On other days, she tells me I complain too much about her spending habits (the relentless buying of clothes - and haircuts that cost £130). On bad days she'll shout..... When I read the article my first thought is that I must be doing something right. I am always reminded of the Red Indian saying about walking a mile in some one else's moccasins before casting judgement. Or the Christian let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

I thought it was Harry

And your point is? What's their average salary a week? What's their average value on the transfer market? Harry was right....we are one place outside the relegation zone and our survival is dependent on whether there are worse (financially and footballing) teams than us.

Done ESB

I am happy with nil nil.

I drove past where the Sun was in Weston, and tere is a metal building frame in its place. What has replaced the old boozer?

Teddy, Are you gonna write some more about your time at SFC?

Anyone reading your last message will sense your anger and you appear entirely justified. I am amazed you only got a 50 50 split of assets, really I am. Who decided that? Once again good luck.

Stressed-out cats and dogs are suffering compulsive disorders because of Britain's high break-up rate between couples, an animal charity has claimed.

I was thinking exactly the same when I heard the announcement. Its George again but George didn't play him, that was the problem.

We don't like gardening. We like talking about it and watching Gardener's world. We have the phone number of a gardener and he or she will spend 2 days doing whatever is necessary, hopefully this week. We will spend next weeknd admiring the garden....weather permitting

I burst out laughing....

I guess that I am pointing out that its the state who screws up dads. Its one thing for a dad to **** off as you put it and leave the mum and child with next to nothing and then expect them to carry on as normal. Its not the same as the state taking monies leaving fathers penalised financially. With luck it takes dads between 3 and 5 years to get back to some sort of financial norm. For example back then, I had £150 a month out of a take home of £2000 (mortgage and maintenance were £1500 alone) to spend on luxuries each month for the first year. It is different now, I hasten to add!! I have to say at this point, that most of my colleagues earn at least £50K a year.

Some laughable comments on here. As some one who listened to the relentless booing of Fuller a few years back, I am sick of fans like those. Cole ****ed up, Cole will have to live with it....but to boo him as well is pathetic

It does seem as if, unusually these days, you have come out of it as the mum, really badly. You are the exception and not the rule - but at least you have your kids. Are you sure you can't go back to the judge to expain what disposing of the house is going to mean to you. I wouldn't give up the house you and your kids need to live in without a fight. I'd like to wish you the best of luck too!

Thanks for the reply, it is interesting to see it from a woman's point of view. The point I was making is this, the woman in a divorce can and often do make lives a misery for men. My ex didn't as it turned out make my life a misery because I got my divorce for free courtesy of the brother in law and she had to pay for hers and the more she fought the more cost she incurred. Me ex did want and expect 80% of assets and had she got that, my kids would have been in the same position as a few of the colleagues at work. They'd have nowhere to stay overnight. One colleague had his kids once a week for 3 hours on a Friday night. This is only 5 years ago and the judge ordered this arrangement for the first 18 months so the ex wife did not got too stressed. His kids cried for most of the first 6 months....another colleague anded up in a flat whilst his wife got the house....this is a man who earned £70K a year. He also paid her mortgage. Oh and I remember my ex saying give me an extra £10K and I'll let you see the kids as often as you want.

I took a keen interest when I got divorced 7 years ago in anyone else getting divorced at that time. This is what I experienced and saw. None of the men stood a chance of residence of their kids. All the men were at the mercy of their ex wives one way or another. All the men gave away considerably more than half the assets and some as much as 80% despite the fact that the men had usually provided most of the assets in the first place. Most annoying in my case was pensionable earnings being earned by the man, nothing to do with the lady also being taken into account and split with a proportion given to the wife. I hope the lad stays in touch with his son but having seen the state that some get into regarding access I fully understand why some men walk away, they'd crack up if they didn't. Before you ask, after having given away 70% of the assets that I had worked hard to acquire long before I'd met my ex, my kids now live with me.

Hacienda says it all really mate. Swallow your pride and behave the best you can for your son. It is a fact that men are second class citizens in most divorces. I remember the helplessness I felt when I was in the same situation as you. There's not many men on here who'd agree with you that any time you spend with your son would be a trivial matter. We know how much it means. I can only wish you good luck. It will get better for you and your son if you do everything you can to stay in his life

traffic, I can't be ****ed to queue all the way from Winchester

Well thats cheered you ****ers up, and me as well.....

I agree with this post 100%. As much as I dislike Lowe, it might just work but on the evidence presented so far, I don't think it is working.

Agreed, a big loss

I'm sorry?